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writes:Okay, this may take a while to read, and it's pretty complicated...Basically, I kinda liked this guy at my school for a while and we talked and stuff, and everything was fine.Until a few weeks ago, I met a boy whilst I was out with some friends and we got on well, we kissed and I gave him my number. After that, we texted and we decided on meeting up the next day, so when we saw eachother again he was like 'I love you' which really creeped me out.. I mean, it was after only one day! It's been almost three weeks that we've been together now and he's really clingy, and constantly tells me he loves me and everything. I start to question my feelings for him because of this, and also because of the fact that he lives about an hour away from me so I rarely see him. After I met this boy, I completely forgot about the other boy at my school but since then I've really started to connect with him and we joke and flirt alot. I'm quite a flirty person so it's only natural for me to do this, I've told my boyfriend about this and he said it's okay. I know it's only harmless flirting but I really think I'm starting to fall for the other boy, and I think he feels the same way as me. I feel that the other boy and I connect in a deeper way, and I see him more often, and I've liked him longer.I still do have feelings for my boyfriend but I really don't think I'd want to be with him anymore, it'll only hurt him more if he finds out that I don't feel for him and I'm only with him for the sake of it, despite the fact it's for his protection. He constantly tells me about his feelings for me, but I just don't know what to do. I'm torn between the two, and it's really really getting me down.Help please?!Thank you!
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reader, goodguy11  +, writes (10 February 2010):
Guys will always say those things to show you how much we love you and all but in reality he can live without you. He's still young and has his whole life to look forward to. He'll be just fine. I know you don't mean to hurt him or anyone but that's just the way it is. People get hurt sometimes unintentionally. Just be brave and be honest. Tell him your feelings for him have changed and it's not working out for you anymore and that you don't want to waste each others time when the relationship is going no where. But whatever you do don't tell him about the other guy in anyway. That will create more drama and jealousy. Again good luck to you.
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reader, goodguy11 +, writes (10 February 2010):
Guys will always say those things to show you how much we love you and all but in reality he can live without you. He's still young and has his whole life to look forward to. He'll be just fine. I know you don't mean to hurt him or anyone but that's just the way it is. People get hurt sometimes unintentionally. Just be brave and be honest. Tell him your feelings for him have changed and it's not working out for you anymore and that you don't want to waste his time
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you :) x
That's what I want to do to be honest...
I'm just terrified of hurting the boy I'm with now
He says things like 'I'd be lost without you' and stuff and it just makes things worse..
I'm so stuck :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): go with the guy u love it seems like if u dont have feelings for the other guy u just feel sorry for him but he will get over it
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reader, Sunnyboy_roxx  +, writes (9 February 2010):
Hey,
i completely agree with the first answer.U shud follow ur heart n tell ur b/f the truth,there's nthing wrong in it..
Initially he may found it harsh bt thats life, u dont always get what u want..!
He will come over it after some time...
Live ur life the way u want ..
Wish u luck..
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reader, goodguy11 +, writes (9 February 2010):
I think you should do what your heart tells you. I think right now you're confused and you really don't know what you want. Just take some time and think about what makes you happy. If you don't want to be with your boyfriend then it's ok you don't have to be with him. He might be hurt but thats life and eventually he'll move on. So decide what you want because after all that's the most important thing. I wouldn't want a girl who didn't want me anymore so consider that if you plan on breaking it off. As for the other guy I think there's some potential in you two love birds. Good luck.
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