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writes:I met this guy when id worked through my own past issues, I have a five year old girl, and him a ten year old. We had both looked to god for the right kind of love, and when we met it felt very meant to be for us both. We even saw a shooting star on our first date and our date was just perfect. Before i met him i knew he had a past of young friends as he worked in a young environment, mainly girls, and i thought about it before i went any further with him, because I knew that this could be a problem in the future, but having such good communication between us and respect, in the beginning it wasnt an issue, he introduced me to friends, and involved me in every way. so there was never a jealousy issue, I was insecure at times as for such a long time, it would be my daughter and myself, my friends have settled down, so i dont see them as often as i like, as it was equally hard for me to have childcare. so i ws a bit resentful for him to have his freedom. but we had discussed him babysitting so i could have some independence too, which i found to be very fair and kind.So this is not a problem of jealousy, but one where i cant understand why my now ex has so many young friends at the age of 36. and chooses that kind of life when with me, we seemed to have everything we both wanted together. I just dont know how to help him, but i want to because i feel he deserves the support, and we have the best chance possible of making it work, however i know i cant help him until it clicks that his giving up a rewarding life for young friendships, that keep him in his youth, but its so frustrating, has anyone else been in this situation before?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): His friends are 19-to 25ish. I have no problem with him having long standing friends especially when he includes me as this was from his past and what his used to. However he is 36, and I'm 33, and I find it very odd, that he says he wants to settle down, but is scared of it and says it's intense at the same time and can't let go of young friends.
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reader, Serenity1  +, writes (17 October 2008):
 I don't understand what the issue is. This is because my guy friend is 39 and I'm 28, and we get along just fine. He also has other friends my age. Yes, I agree with you it probably does have a little to do with them wanting to keep their youth, but from my understanding all humans go through that stage in life. Even my mom in her 50's still at times tries to stay up to date. I really don't think its a problem unless these individuals are under 18. But if they aren't then why not be friends with them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): How old are these friends? Are they teenagers? if so then that's a problem
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