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writes:me and my boyfriend we dating for eight years now,we had a great sex but never ever in those years done anal sex. we had oral sex sometimes and i wanna change all of that. i want to try something new like anal sex,i hear it`s very painful but how can i tell cause i never experience it? so how do i tell my man that i want us to start doing more oral and anal sex? cause i`m getting bored now with viganal sex,and he hasn`t show me any signs of wanting us to do anal sex what do you guys think i should do? our 8th anniversary it`s on the 25 october i was thinking maybe i could suprise him.any tips that you can give i will apreciate it, i want it to be special to both of us even though i`m not sure how he`ll react.is there any way to make it less painful for the first time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): It's not hard... while we were having sex one day my GF in college simply told me that she wanted to give me her anal virginity. Up to then we'd not discussed it and I recall that I was instantly turned on. It took a few days of playing at it and then we did it. It was amazing and we both loved it! As for oral, it's even easier... tell him to get down there and lick you till you come... and then return the favor. He'll get his after you've gotten yours!have a good time!Anal should never hurt and in the 10 years we had it we NEVER had any accidents, and never used an enema. Research lube and buy a high quality. Toys are likely to be more difficult than his penis, so be forewarned.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (21 October 2008):
 Rent the movie "Last Tango in Paris" as foreplay?
I must remember to buy butter tonight, she thinks to herself. Okay, so, another "going-to-hell-moment". I have so many of them it's hard to distinguish them anymore...
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Butt, seriously, I am a fan. You have been given some great advice by the Aunties. And personally, if you approach anal sex with a lot of foreplay, plenty of lubrication and a very slow pace, then there is very little chance of you bleeding, honestly, but the beginning can be painful, so be forewarned. The End results are usually quite satisfying...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): I personaly love anal sex! done in the right way it can be amazing!!!! making sure you use plenty of lubrication is essential! and sorry to be graphic but have an empty bowel is also a must! personally i would just ask him, say your curous about it and would like to try it! have fun! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): Hi!
I would discuss this first wiht you bf. If i tried to surprise mine wiht the he would probably be impotent for a month! We have talked about it and neither of us want to go near the area, Im not really into the idea personally and he is totally discusted by the idea of having sex where poo comes out...
So maybe you should talk to your bf first and see how he reacts! If hes up for it then qcumber1 had good advice! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): I've never done this myself, but understand that it can be quite pleasureable for women. The best thing is to make sure that there is plenty of lubrication. And although it might be very hard to do, it will be much easier the more relaxed you are. Several of my girlfriends have told me that its much easier for them when they are a little drunk. I'm not saying you should do that, but that's what they have said. Word of warning, you may bleed afterwards, and having a bowel movement may cause a lot of pain/possible bleeding as well. Definetely have your guy use a condom too. Go slowly, and perhaps it will be something that both of you will enjoy. In regards to your guy, I guess the best way to approach it is just straightforward "honey, I've always been curious about anal sex, what do you think about it?" See how he reacts, and go from there. Good luck.
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