A
female
age
30-35,
*orgeous'
writes:Hey guys,I just need someone to read this and then tell me what they think, its getting me really down.I went over my boyfriends house on thursday, and he was doing something upstairs and i was sat on his computer, Me being a typical nosy female, (absolutley nothing to do with trust issues what so ever just to let you know) went looking at his chatlogs, he hadnt spoke to anyone this month but he had spoken to 5 people in january, one of these people was this girl,i have known her quite awhile and shes two years younger than me. In the chatlog he had spoken to her the most out of everyone. I read the conversation, it was just a normal convo, until she said "im really bored do you want to come out? and he says nah ive got a girlfriend and they both put lol". I didnt think nothing of it, and then my boyfriend walked into the room whilst i was on decembers chatlogs and yet again he had spoke to her the most, but then he realised what i was doing and told me to get off them. In the end we came to an agreement that i could just look at the email adresses, and not read the actually conversation, until i made a comment about how much he speaks to sophie. Then he grabbed the mouse and deleted all his chatlogs, and then went into his recycle bin and deleted them out of there. I was quite hurt the fact that weve been together a year and he was keeping stuff from me. When we eventually started speaking again, he said it wasnt that he has anything to hide from me, it jsut that its his personal stuff and he didnt want me looking through it. I totally understand where hes coming from, i know it was wrong of me to go nosing with out asking but i didnt think he would care. I spoke to three of my closest mates each seperatly about it, and they all said the same thing " he would never do anything stupid like that, everyone can see how much he loves you, he isnt that stupid to throw this last year away. "(well roughly around that)I do feel like my boyfriend truly loves me, we have been through everything together, Its just i am quite a paranoid person naturally, and he knows that and for this last year my paranoia has really calmed down, as i honestly couldnt see him cheating on me, but now im just paranoid about everything. Hes been deleting his text messages for the last say 4-5 months out of habit i assume, as i used to delete mine simply because i would do it automatically, but now its got me thinking that hes texting someone else. Please help, i dont want to throw this year away! xx
View related questions:
text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): I cant say if hes cheating or not,but i can say its wrong to go through somebody elses anything without their permision...period.its an invation of privacy and that will damage the trust between the two of you.i say talk about this and any other thing that bothers you,but never...never keep things that bother you inside because thatll just eat you up inside and make you start seeing things that arent there
A
male
reader, MyDestiny  +, writes (14 February 2009):
 i dont think he's cheating...
you know how guys are with theeir friends
they joke aroound, even with their female friends.
so maybe the thinks they tlk about would worry you
or hurt you, and he doesnt want you to see them for taht reason
' and it's an invasion of privasy to read somebody's messages..i can understand why he got a little upset about it..and as you say he trully loves so there's really nothing to worry about
...............................
A
male
reader, rcn +, writes (14 February 2009):
 I would talk to him. Instead of being blaming his behavior, share how you feel about his behavior. This chat may be innocent, yet it's easy be a little flirty on a computer chat. It may, or may not mean anything, we don't know what was going through his mind, or hers.
I'd ask him directly about the "girlfriend, lol" Never feel ashamed you feel the way you do, and don't hide it. If something bothers you, discuss it so it doesn't continue eating at you.
...............................
|
