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writes: I have had a girlfriend for about 3 months now and everything is perfect! Communication, affection, whatever you can name is perfect. There is just one problem that isn't either of our faults, and that is her friend. Her friend got very jealous and started spreading rumors about how "i treat her bad" and "she deserves better" even though i have done nothing wrong. My girlfriend has talked to this person and tried to get her to stop, and even threatened their "being friends" but nothing has worked. These rumors spread to all my gf's friends, and now her friends start nagging at her about going out with me (even though they have never met me!) Although my g/f denies all the rumors and tries to reveal the truth, her friends start hating her for going out with me! My logical thought would be to do a group thing with her friends, but her friends hate me so much they refuse to. We've both run out of ideas and all this is killing a perfect relationship. Is this situation simply a hole getting dug deeper? or is it possible to stop all this and resume what we once had before it all started? and how?
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reader, missdee +, writes (7 September 2005):
Tell your girlfriend true friends would not do that or believe that especially after being told by your girlfriend that it was not true. Do her so-called friends realize they are hurting her! Perhaps she should tell them. They may not care about you but if they are really her friends they will believe her.
Your girlfriend needs to cut all ties with anyone that continues to do this. They do not care how she feels, and she will be better off without them.
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reader, Delila +, writes (7 September 2005):
Although everyday seems like a lifetime when you are in this situation I think that the truth will win out in the end. If your girlfriend threatened to not be friends with this trouble maker if she did not take back all she said well then she needs to follow through with this. Every time your girlfriend is seen in the company of this girl it cements the rumours in everybodys heads. These rumours that have no basis will go away once everyone can see your girlfriend looks well and happy and as soon as something new to gossip about comes on the horizon.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (7 September 2005):
 It sounds to me like these girls are all just jealous of you two and how happy you are in the relationship. Don't let them ruin something that sounds really good so just ignore them! You and your girlfriend have fun, spend time together and forget about those losers.
However, if you finish at some point, she still needs friends so make sure you don't become totally dependant on each other. Tell her to speak to her friends again, tell them you're together and nothing they can do will change that. If they can't be happy for her and support her whatever, they're not friends worth having anyway.
I understand how frustrating it must be for you to be hated by people who don't even know you but you've just got to rise above it all. They sound really pathetic and simply want a boyfriend as good as you are! Good luck and just relax. Don't let them ruin what you have, it sounds really special. :)
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