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*rinny*
writes:so here is my story:Me and my boyfriend have been going out for three years now and have had an amazing and close relationship. Last year he had some problems juggling study and full time work so I suggested we take a break as he should organise himself and I couldnt help in anyway, he agreed but he said he doesnt know how long he needs so I treated this as a break up,he still called every couple of days and after a month or so we eneded up back together. Happier than before.This year I saw the same thing coming as he has picked up further study and was really stressing out so I asked if the same thing will happen again and he said hes gonna try his very best not to let it happen but he doesnt know. And this led into a big argument after a few days he said " this isnt fair to you, I have so much going on and cant give you the time and attention that you need but I love you and I wanna stay your friend" I agreed.He kept on calling me liek nothing has happend and would ask me out. So I sat down and told him If he just need time I give him that but he either has to break it off and stop contacting me or just take a break and fiz his life and come back.And he said I want a break cause I still love you and want you and I never wanna be with anyone else but atm I can't handle it.We agreed on a month break with NC. He called me after 2days and it made me feel like I could contact him too so weve been talkin every couple of daysfor the past two weeks and last night he said can you not call me and let me call you?And dont ask to see me as I feel too guilty if i say no but i also need the time to just focus on my work.And he said its still everything we agreed on but he just need a bit of space and when i asked so a month? he said I dont know how long I cant give you a date but I keep in contact with you. Should I just give him some time and space or he doesnt love me/want to be with me anymore? so confused..will appriciate any help :)
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reader, Trinny* +, writes (7 March 2008):
Trinny* is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice. I really do appriciate it, I just wanted to know if my feelings are right or im just in denail.Just an update:I havent seen him for over 2 weeks and I miss him so much.we had a long conversation tonight, just talking about general things, how everything with both of us is going.And i asked him if he misses me, and he said..umm..yeah..i do see things and think of you, I do think of things and miss you but to be honest thats not all I'm thinking about as I'm struggling with work and catching up with uni workand managing my time so thats what my focus is on and thats why i dont think a relationship is the best thing for me at this moment.I just need some decent amount of time to get my feet back on the ground, thats all.
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reader, red1982  +, writes (6 March 2008):
I think you should trust him and wait for him. He seems like he has been honest with you so far, and you can see that he has a lot on his plate.
Give him the space he needs to concentrate on his work and he'll appreciate it. That way you know that wehn he contacts you he has the time, and you don't feel that you may be getting in the way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): don't know but something tells me here that there maybe someone else in his life! everything for the best for you
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