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writes:Due to joint internet access i have discovered my boyfriend has an 'adult friendfinder' account. He is listed as single and describes his manhood too. He has written looking for online fun....I know he chats as he doesnt come to bed until very late....our sex life is non existant although i am very willing.any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): I know what your goin through.. my borfiend has one too and he refuses to delete it and im redy to leave him over it.. get over him, im sure you can do better!! :)
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reader, HOLLEE Price  +, writes (19 September 2008):
my husband did the same...listen to your gut......he is a sex addict and has ruined our marriage. this is very painful.......there is nothing on thre but a a store for sex.....dump him
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): This is really normal, it's probably not because he thinks you have a bad sex-life!! It's just something that is natural for us guys. To chat and flirt is something we've been doing since we first laid eyes on a girl. It might just be that he feels that flirting on the web is safer AND not that hurtful towards you. You just have to tell him what you accept and what you dont, do NOT make a big deal out of it, cause for him its probably nothing besides a hobby when he's bored. - Good luck, you'll figure something out
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): talk to him about it and ask why he feels the need to satisfy himself elsewhere when you are there perfectly willing! - does he know that you are?
Good luck
Henri
xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): Personally I will not TOLERATE such behaviour;
I think you DESERVE BETTER, don't you agree?
I think you KNOW what you NEED TO DO!
Be strong, best wishes and lots of SMILES.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Hi Peeved,
I take it you haven't approached him about this? Why don't you simply ask him why he feels the need to be on a site like that, and tell him what you just told us, that your own sex life is non-existent, and that you want him and you're willing.
If he's not happy with your sex life, then ask him why, maybe he'd like you to spice things up a little. That's what's on offer on these sites, the sex talks, pictures and videos of the very explicit type to the extreme, even live cams ~ people showing off their 'lunch-boxes', complete with their lunch!
Lots of people 'perv' in adult chat rooms, but for him to advertise that he's single, is none too fair on you. If he carries on, I would just tell him to sling his hook.
A very similar thing happened to me just recently, found out he was registered on a swingers site, his 'poker' plastered all over it, it was, even a pic of him getting a b/j. He'd also been sleeping with other women, was having 3sums, and lied of his profile. The 'sweet and innocent, but poor lonely soul' I had met convinced me he was single. Bastard! Thank God it I found out when I did.
Please don't get me wrong, I'm not suggesting your boyfriend is like the 'dick' I knew, I'm just trying to tell you that you cannot go on living with a guy that's 'hooked' like this, otherwise your relationship is just one big lie.
You've got to have it out with him and tell him he has to be straight with you.
Good luck, my luv, and I hope you find a solution to this issue.
BigSis
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): Sweetheart, there is nothing YOU can do, it is all up to him. This question seems to be brought up daily on this site, unfortunately. There seems to be a silent epidemic going on the United States, only just becoming recognized.
I am sorry to say, but your boyfriend could be a sex-addict. This is horrible for you because despite what the name implies, sexual addiction does not mean YOU will be getting more sex, but rather less as he becomes more and more dependent and conditioned to his own hand.
Men seem to be more likely to develope this debilitating condition, but there are women in the fold as well. Please take the time out and visit npsupport.net to determine wether or not this truly applies to your boyfriend. Do not confront him as this could reck your relationship and requires a delicate touch.
I hope your boyfriend is not having this problem and it is just a temporary condition of your relationship. Best wishes for you, Hugs.
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