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*ohnathon66
writes:I recently got back with my long term girlfriend who I broke up with over a year ago. After breaking up with her boyfriend that she had for a year, she admitted having feelings for me once again, which led to us seeing each other and me breaking up with my ex girlfriend for her.The reason we broke up in the first place is because she cheated on me once, but now she says she has changed. But still it is really hard for me to trust her, she gets a lot of interest from other guys and I find it hard to convince her that these guys are interested in more than just friendship. I want to know what's shes doing the entire time, but then I'm mirroring her ex boyfriend who was a abusive control freak.How can I protect myself from her crushing my heart again?
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (11 August 2008):
 You cant! and thats the problem.
You have 2 choices, one is to try your best to trust her and see if she really has changed, or you can go with the other option and let her go.
If you dont at least try to trust her, it will never work anyway. I know its hard for you, because of her background but lets face it your no angel either, because you just admitted you dumped your ex to get back with this ex. Maybe you both just need a little time to learn to relax about each other again.
XX Good luck
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 You asked: How can I protect myself from her crushing my heart again?
The best way to do this is NOT to date someone that you are unable to trust.
Find someone else.
-Frank B Kermit
http://www.frankadviceformen.com
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): Its got to come from deep within you. People do deserve a second chance and you must try and work onthe trust issue. A relationship cant exist healthily if there is no trust. Then again, i wish i could listen to my own advice.
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reader, Saleem  +, writes (11 August 2008):
hey,
While people do realise mistakes that they made in the past and they do change, not all of them do.
I think you need to see for yourself if she has really changed or not. If i were in your situation i would have let her know exactly how i feel and tell her that the only way for me to get over the insecurities is for her to have some patience and understanding and if i need to know exactly where she is all the time then if she really wants me she would be willing to do that for a while.
Im not telling you to tell her where she can and cant go or anything like that but at the same time if she really wants you then she should be willing to do whatever it takes for you to overcome the way you feel..
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