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writes:my bf of 8yrs has a crush. He hasnt told me but he wont stop singing the praises of a girl in his pub. His friends joke that he is in love with her (ha ha). ive noticed he gazes at her even when im there. she is apparently not into him. do i stay quiet and hope it burns out? or confront him and possibly embarrass him or worse push him to her now shes forbidden fruit? pls help
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2013): If that bothers you so much, why won't you ask him in private? If I were in your shoes, I would see if he kept giving that kind of signs. If it really bugged me, I'd bring that up in a rational manner as much as possible when we're alone. Then, I'd proceed from there.
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reader, finalmailings  +, writes (6 May 2013):
 You need to re-evaluate why you are in this relationship. How would your b-friend feel if the shoe was on the other foot and you were talking highly about another guy, and your g-friends were saying you were in love.
I'd say, you should really take a look at why you are there. Don't worry about pushing him away. You also should look at the underlying reasons you are with him, but I am hearing a lot of sense of self issues and a lack of confidence in terms of what you deserve.
You definitely need talk to him, but the truth is, you may decide to leave. I've been there, and for me, my fear and lack of belief in myself kept me quite and trapped in bad relationships.
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