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writes: Heya,I really need some advice on saving my relationship. I stupidly cheated on my boyfriend and got pregnant, altho I convinced myself it was my boyfriend's, I couldn't be 100% sure. Since we had only been together 6 months and I'm a student, my boyfriend and I decided to a termination would be the best course of action and I hoped once it was over things would be fine. This was a month ago and boyfriend has somehow just found out I cheated on him. He is understandably so angry, although I have tried to assure him that the baby was his, he obviously doesn't believe a word I say. I really, really love him and before this we had been talking about getting married. I despise myself for what I've done, it was a stupid stupid drunken mistake and I wish I could undo it with all my heart but I can't. This was last week and we are still together, but I can tell it's eating him up inside. I just want to see him smile again. I feel so guilty and helpless - how can I fix things?
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reader, dominic100  +, writes (22 October 2008):
well my gf cheated on me when she was drunk and all the trust i had for her went out the window. i was angry but like u we didnt split up which is a very gd sign just make sure u dont do anything which u know gets him angry or pissed coz hes on eage when hes with u not because he want to be but coz hes hurt. my gf will not drink now unless im there out of her option not mine and for some reson it does make me feel like she is sorry. the pain that i got is still there and im sure it will be for him he will never forget it but in time if you make him feel like hes the only one for you and show him it was a mistake like my gf has he will forgive you and will be a peace with it. now if u ever do go out with girls dont expect him to b fine with it the 1st few times and dont do anything that could start a rumor coz after what u have put your bf though he dont need any more pain or even coments fro other people. time will bring forgiveness but untill then be. show him how much he means to you do him lil cards silly things like that stuff that takes effort be your self dont smother him and if you argue over any random thing like bf and gf dot let it go to far and dont get to the point of upsetness just give in say sorry and love you this is only for a few weeks not b a push over just show him u love him the way u say u do
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2005): By the way, the mistakes were intentional....looks stupid huh?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2005): Are anyof you old enough to have sex? From your grammer I'd say you are in second grade.....maybe
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reader, Buty +, writes (8 August 2005):
It is easy said than done that we should forgive and forget. I was avictim of the same situation when my girlfriend cheated on me with her former boyfriend and she got pregnant. She did not terminate the pregnancy and the baby is now abot 2 years old. I forgave her but never forgot because I can see the fruits of this cheating. However, I have managed to live with it as I've now developed love for the boy. I did this because it was not the child's mistake and no one is perfect.
Coming to your situation, I must ask your boyfriend to develop shock absorbers because we are human and we fall all the times but it doesn't mean that when we fall we don't stand up again. He should just support you and you should give him the assurance that "darling I love you and it was just human error". With this you will win his trust and ones you win his trust you will continues to develop the love you have for one another and move to the next level.
Thanks Buty.
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reader, kim21 +, writes (2 August 2005):
i dont think it was just a drunken mistake i think it is something deeper maybe something your boyfriend couldn't give you the excitement perhaps but then you find out your pregnant thats when reality hits. speak to your boyfriend about it if he cant forgive you then he may as well forget you because this will be in his mind all the time whether he shows it or not there will be no trust explain it was a mistake tell him you know the baby was his say you used contraceptive etc but be truthful surely he can credit you for that then just take things one step at a time things will work out some how.
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