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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for nearly three years and he is my first love. The other day he said I could see him after my work so on my break that day I phoned him to see if he was still okay with it. Turns out he didn't remember about it and was at his friends. I was a bit upset but didn't tell him I just hoped he would turn up after my work to surprise me. He didn't. I spoke to him later on that night and told him I was upset about it but he said that if he was to leave his friends to come see me it would be ignorant. Even if he came to see me for five minutes I would have really appreciated it. If it was me I would drop everything to go and see him. Please tell me your opinion on this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe has done something similar like this before. Though the last time he said he got mixed up with what time he was meeting me at. And he said he was genuinely sorry but how many more times is he going to get mixed up or forget because there is only so much I can take. One time ages ago he put me on a bus home a lot earlier than usual even though he knew how much i didnt want to go. Only for me to get home and phone him and it turned he had went to his friends to play ps3 games. I love him to pieces and I know he cares a lot about me but i get so upset when stuff like this happens.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 August 2012):
 I agree with Caring Guy's question.
IF he does this often, I would say enough is enough, that obviously you are NOT his top priority.
If this is a one-off event, I'd let it slide. And since you have already explained that you were a bit disappointed, he knows.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 August 2012):
Has he done this before?
If not, and it's a one off, then you can afford to let it go, but explain that you were hurt and you don't expect him to cast you aside in the name of 'ignorance' again.
If he has done this before, then he's not mature enough for you, or for a relationship and you should look at whether you want to continue with the relationship.
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reader, Quentin95  +, writes (13 August 2012):
In any case, he should have at least notified you about not being able to make it. That having been said, if someone forgets (really just forgets ) something, yes, it probably means they should've written it down somewhere but forgetting stuff happens, whether it's your girlfriend or your keys.
Also, this friend of his, is it someone he sees alot, or was he in town which rarely happens? The last scenario gives him more of an excuse according to me, but, as I said, he should've at least notified you.
I don't think you should worry about your relationship on basis of this either: Just make clear to him that you'd like him to let you know next time he skips on plans you had, and I think you'll be all right :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 August 2012):
 Ignorant? How is it ignorant to respect his agreement with you? On the contrary, it is respectless to ignore the agreement he had with you. He made plans with you first. Thus, that first plan should be his priority.
You just weren't imporant enough for him. Does he put his friends before you often?
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