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writes:I would like to know one of two things. why do men get so much pleasure out of a blowjob and less out of sex?I also have a few fantasies. How to I communicate this to my boyfriend of five years?Will he think I'm weird if I want to try out something new!Oh and he is also against anal sex and its my favorite how can we reach a compromise?
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reader, janice201149  +, writes (14 August 2012):
 1. Men get too stimulated during Blow Job because mouth is more tighter and tongue plus warm feeling inside the mouth adds more stimulation that's why.2. I think the reason why your BF doesn't agree with you in terms of having anal sex is because he knows about the risk of doing it, and he just wants an wholesome sex because He really loves you and Respect you.-------------------
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (14 August 2012):
 Because it feels extremely good and takes less effort, but not always. In regard to anal, I don't know.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (13 August 2012):
 An interesting set of questions. Is it merely economics that makes us want something that is harder to get? Does one person resisting make the other desire it more? There are a lot of answers to your questions. Some are probably accurate but are they helpful?
Of all your questions My favorite was your last, "how can we reach a compromise?" Life and love are all about compromise. When you say you are looking for compromise I know you are looking in the right direction. First, communicate. Be open about your desires and your willingness to fulfill his desires. Next make offers. Make a lot of offers. You never know which one will seem like fun to him. Third accept defeat graciously. If he is not going to give in, accept it and look for an alternative that you can both live with.
I've been married 25 years and there are times when we can't express our fantasy's or desires. There are times when we may think that the other is weird. Don't worry so much about that. Worry that you trust him enough to share your biggest secrets with him, because you know he will handle it o k.
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reader, Hennessy1989  +, writes (13 August 2012):
 The truth is because most of us are lazy and enjoy to just lay back and relax, blow jobs are great, as for gettin him into anal if he says he's dead against it I don't no if you will able to change him, get him drunk and tell him how much you want it, when we are drunk we let go a bit more, that's your best bet :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 August 2012):
 1. SOME men prefer blow jobs to intercourse... SOME do not... I would think that blow jobs are EASIER for a man to get than to have intercourse as they tend to be the one setting the pace... and doing most of the work...
2. for fantasies, if you are together 5 years and don't know how to talk to him about your sexual desires, perhaps it's not the best of relationships... just one day bring it up maybe AFTER sex when you have pillow talk? or go out to dinner and talk about it on the way home???
why is he against anal sex? if he does not like it you can't force him to do it.. just like if you did not like it he cant' force you... you will have to accept that it's not something he wants to do and learn to live with that.
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