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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello,Me and my boyfriend have been dating for around 4 months nearly now and yesterday we got into a bit of an argument because he needed help with something and I turned it around on myself because I was in a mess too (I suffer from severe depression and always seem to let small things get to me which is why I was in a mess) and I fully admitted what I did was wrong and should've put him first like I always do. So I apologised and he kept giving me one worded answers. Anyway at that point we called it a night, so the next day I expected things to blow over and he wouldn't be as annoyed. But this wasn't the case he was still miffed off and saying one worded answers, and then he said he needed a break from talking to me constantly which is fair enough I guess because we do talk a hell of a lot.So I said okay and he left to go out with his friends. Few hours later he text me complete gibberish because he was drunk so I responded to him asking him what he meant and told me he was drunk,and when things seemed near enough normal I texted him saying how much I loved him and how much he meant to me and in response all I got was "Sounds cool" which as you can imagine annoyed me senseless.He signed in on msn and we started talking but of course he was still drunk and being extremely crude which isn't like my boyfriend at all he used to have a drinking problem but I thought he'd gotten over it now I'm scared his drinking problem will come back and destroy our entire relationship as he's extremely horrible when he gets drunk.I'm supposed to be seeing him over the weekend and I'm questioning whether it'd be okay to talk to him about this face to face, he isn't being himself at all and I don't want to lose him because he means the absolute world to me not only that he was my best friend before we dated.I have no idea what to do as one minute he'll seem fine the next he just won't give me the time of day.We were fine until our argument, I'm pretty unsure to what he wants to do and whenever I ask all I get is "Whats that supposed to mean".I don't know what to do about it and its driving me insane I haven't eaten for a while or slept much because of it.I seriously need some advice asap please?Thank you all in advance :)X
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reader, raiders  +, writes (23 April 2010):
 You said he stopped drinking but had a fall out because of the argument, I don't think you have to call it quits right this second, if you love him. He has to go AA meetings so that he gets the supports he needs and counseling on how not to turn to liquor when he angry, or sad. Encourage him to go to these meetings so he can stay sober. If he doesn't want to go than there is not much you can do to help a person who do not want to be help and maybe than you should consider moving on.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 April 2010):
 The only effective advice one can give you is the one which I am afraid you will not follow- leave him.
This guy is not your husband ( luckily ) your son or your father, you haven't the least moral obligation to nurse him through is drinking problems. If repeatedly drinks to the point of being incoherent he's not a social drinker or a party guy or a funloving type, -he is an addicted,or he'll be one pretty soon. If you have any self respect , you won't want to be part of this scenario.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 April 2010):
I think you need to end it with this guy. You're only young and you don't need to be tied to a guy who is already a drunk. Granted, this started after an argument, but he knows he has a drinking problem, and that's not something you need to take on.
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