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writes:Is it considered rape if it was your boyfriend? A few days ago I was at my bf's house and we started having an argument, mostly because I wanted to wait until I felt comfortable enough to have sex and he was getting annoyed with me. Well I walked out of his house because I couldn't take it anymore and he caught me and dragged me into the house and forced me to have sex.I'm scared to go near him again, but he's been calling and saying he's sorry, but I don't know what I should do.He is 8 years older than me and I'm 16, I don't want him to get into trouble.What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (27 March 2008):
 You said no he did it thats RAPE if you say know and dont give your consent its classed as rape you could be married for 30 years and it still wouldnt matter no means no! I would go to the police and i definetly wouldnt see him again
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reader, sexi  +, writes (27 March 2008):
 Think carefully. Why dont you want to tell anyone? He didnt think about how it would make you feel when he forced you to have sex. You are probably going to need some professional help to get over this and i think that the right thing to do is to tell an adult so that he is abke to hurt anyone in this way. I just hope that you have nothing to do with him and you are staying far away from him.
Regards,mail me if you wanna chat
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 March 2008):
 He rape you alright but proving it in court may not be easy .
It is your word against his.
Since you don't want to him to be in trouble.
You cannot report him to the police or tell anyone else.
Make sure you take the morning after pill to prevent any
untoward pregnancy.It is effective for 72 hours after sex.
I hope you are doing the right thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): you said NO !!!
YES its rape he forced you to have sex after you said no you say you dont want him to get in trouble !!!!! he raped you who else has he done this to and your going to say you dont want him to get in trouble i would say your not the first girl he has done this to and if you dont tell someone you will more than likely not be the last girl he does it to.. GO TO THE POLICE
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): So then if you don't want him to get into trouble, then what he did was okay? Is this the type of relationship you wish to have with a man? If you don't stand up for yourself, then you will eventually will be on your own, and others will not be able to help you.
It was rape! What he did was EXTREMELY WRONG! Tell your mother what happened, and press charges against him. There is also a chance you could get pregnant, is this what you want? You should be check at the hospital and to make sure you don't get pregnant. Time is of the essence for this. His actions ould cause you grief with other men. Not all men are this selfish!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): Rape can be done by anyone! Boy friends, Husbands, family members. Rape is rape and he raped you!You need to tell you parents and the cops! He is 8 years older! I bet he is sorry. He is only sorry cause he is scared he will go to jail! Please stay away from this jerk he is no good and will only hurt you. Please tell an adult what happened. If not you parents a teacher, cop or school therapist. Oh honey please stay away from him and get help. God Bless you and good luck.
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reader, polarkite +, writes (27 March 2008):
 Yes, it's called date rape. That completely sucks. If you don't deal with this appropriately, it will likely haunt you for a long time to come.
You need to do what is best for you. You are probably in emotional trauma or shock right now, something you may have never felt before. You need help. You need to tell a friend, therapist, parent, or someone you trust who can support and help you in your time of need.
You can also call a local women's shelter or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-7233 to find out about legal options and resources available to you. You can also call the national sexual assault hotline at (800) 656-HOPE. I'm not sure how good the advice these hotlines give, but it'll give you a start in the right direction, and will probably give you some ideas on what your resources are and what you need to do.
Here's a good internet article on rape and what to do if you've been raped:
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/problems/rape_what_to_do.html
Please do something about this and take care of yourself. You could have gotten an STD from this guy, or even be pregnant with his child. It's important that you protect yourself, by reporting the issue, going to a doctor, etc. Otherwise, people will not call it rape, and you will not get the help you likely need.
Also, this guy deserves to get in a lot of trouble. He should not be able to get away with this!
It's important to put yourself first here! You are in charge now!
I hope you take some action for yourself and give yourself the resources and space to recover and feel better soon!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): Go to the police.
Rape is rape dose'nt matter who done it to you.
Ur boyfriend can still rape you.
Get and stay as far away from this gay as you can!!
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