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writes:I have a boyfriend that I've been dating for now almost a year. I knew about his ex girlfriend, and well we didn't really like each other since that time. I had to leave the town for couple of months and by the time I got back it turned out to be that he cheated on me with that ex. he was begging me to get back with him, because he loves me and can't live without me and all that crap. Since I love him to death I agreed and forgave him. After that it turns out to be that his ex is pregnant, and he is the father of that baby... I don't know what to do. Im very confused! I know that it would be stupid if to keep talking to him as nothing happened, but I ust love him very much that can't let him go. He knows the way I feel and says he loves me very much as well. He decided to try to do everything as needed so to support his ex about all the baby stuff. But they are no longer with each other. So I agreed with that too... He understands all the things I go through and against to be with him, that is why tries to be with me and please me as much as possible. But at the same time he says he doesnt want his ex to know we are dating. The reason he says why is that he doesnt want her to do anything stupid since she is pregnant... I just need some advice about this!!! Im so lost! I can't let him go! As well as I know there is no normal future for us with all that baby mama dramma thing
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (1 February 2011):
 What do you mean you don't know how? You dump him that's what you do.
If he doesn't want the baby and it's a mistake then why is he still trying to offer his ex support? At the most he should be doing is paying her child support.
Good luck with that, hold onto your hat because it's going to be a bumpy ride from here on out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for the advice! I really appreciate that. And I know I should quit this all before it gets even worse. And yes, he does say he loves me, he used to say that he doesn't care about her as much as he cares about me, and that baby is a mistake and he doesn't want it, but I guess he will stay by her side to help her out, just because it's his baby, not because of her. I know they are not dating each other right now, because we have common friends that told me and would not probaby lie to me. I should leave him, and I understand that, but the love I have for him is so strong that it doesn't let me do that. If it did, I would have bumped him long ago... As he says he doesnt want his ex to be worried about anything right now, since it's his baby she is carrying. I do want to quit this all, but just don't know how...
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reader, golddigger99 +, writes (1 February 2011):
 Girl--RUN WHILE YOU STILL CAN! You are so young--way to young to throw yourself into a situation like this. If he cheated on you once, he will do it again!!! I agree with tennisstar88, he's fed you a line of bullshit and you ate it up--no questions asked. If you stay in this relationship, then you are setting yourself up for a future filled with tons of lies, cheating, and DRAMA! Good Luck!
P.S. What you have now is probably young love. If this is the case, then trust me--it will pass and you'll get over it!!!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (1 February 2011):
Sounds like your boyfriend fed you a line of bullshit and you bought every word of it.
If he really loved you as much as he claims to, do you think he would have cheated on you and knocked up his ex? No, he would have kept it in his pants for those 2 months.
It's also complete and utter bull that he doesn't want his ex to know you two are dating because he's concerned she'll do something stupid. How about that's another line of bs he's feeding you to hide the fact that they're still together.
Since he's taking responsibility for his actions, you're not going to see him very much at all when this baby is born. His time will be spent helping his ex taking care care of a screaming newborn rather than with you.
If you stay with this loser, you're going to get shafted big time. Ditch him now, and save yourself the drama you're about to face.
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reader, just a female  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 wow, what a mess. im sorry this happened to you! its such a horrible thing when your boyfriend cheats but even worse now that you find out it was with his ex and now shes pregnant! i understand that you love him but does he love you to? if he does how did he let this happen with him and his ex? no one can exspect you to deal with this if you dont want to.
how are things with you BF now?
are you sure his ex means nothing to him anymore?
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