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writes:I have been in a relationship for 3 years with my partner. However we lack so much trust and paranoia for each other. This is down to cheating, and texting flirts. However, we both find it hard to get over what we have done to each other. But apart from that i am struggling with my partners immaturity. He is 19 and his best friend, is not a very a nice person in other words, he smokes weed, he deals it, and he is generally not a nice guy. But my boyfriend insists of his life being like his. I have just found out that he has recently smoked weed and dealt it too, and also he now wants more freedom to see his friends however he is very influenced by people and i am worried that he will finish me, and take the wrong path in life, because he is very gullible. He doesn't seem to have his own mind.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 August 2010):
I'm worried that you'll end up seeing him get arrested for drug dealing, and looking like a bit of a fool. You're with a loser. A total loser. Your boyfriend does have his own mind, and he has decided that he will take drugs and deal drugs, and he will sacrifice you for these 'friends' of his. Forget feeling worried that he will dump you. Be worried that one day he will ruin your life. you can either be with this loser until he dumps you, hurts you, cheats on your or whatever. Or you can find a man that will actually be good to you.
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reader, Cherry91 +, writes (5 August 2010):
I guess the question is will you be able to give him the freedom he is asking for? Or will that be too much for you to handle?
I've been in similar situations to you and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. If you don't agree with the drug taking and dealing then please talk to him about it. You can't expect him to change his habits for you but maybe if you have a word with him about it he will stop doing these things on his own.
Not trusting each other can cause huge problems in relationships. If you've both hurt each other and been unfaithful then it will take alot of time and work from both of you to get that trust back. You'll have to prove to each other that you can be trusted and have stopped the texting & flirting.
You do seem to care about him so if I were you I'd have a talk with him and tell him how I feel. Good luck with whatever you decide to do
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