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writes: I am in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend for 2 months tells me he'll do things and he doesn't do them. Is he trying to tell me he doesn't want to be in this relationship any longer?
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reader, robinlovescena +, writes (21 November 2005):
 i personally think that long distance relationships never last. especially if youre in school.If you cant trust him, do you really think that you should be dating him? I also think that you should try talking to him about the promise situation. Ask him why he does it, and ask him if he will stop and that it bothers you. and then bring up the "us" situation. ask him if he still want to see you, and keep on with the conversation about that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2005): He is showing you that he isnt prepared to keep to anything he says he will .. do you want to be with someone that can let you down and break promises he makes to you now .. it can only get worse at 2 months into the relationship and you are getting this its not going to get any better.
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reader, Aunty Suzie +, writes (20 November 2005):
Well well well.. What you have is a guy who will NEVER follow through...You can spend the next six months being let down by this tease, never knowing what to expect, twisting in the wind, or the next six years doing the same. You are worth more. If he is like this now he will not get better. It's not that he is a monster, just not the guy for you. You can hurt now or hurt later, let this carrot dangler find someone else to confuse and go forth with your life, on your terms, never settle!You go girl!
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reader, shania  +, writes (20 November 2005):
 It does seem he is halfhearted,if u have been seeing each other for 2 mths,then it should be in the exciting period,saying that,it is a long distance relationship and that would add the strain.If i was you,i would cut my losses with this man and find a social life somewhere else,he is not that keen.Find another boyfriend who will keep his promises.Its not going anywhere.
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reader, Toddler 25 +, writes (20 November 2005):
My gf was complaining about that a lot earlier, and I dint really understand why when she occasionally exploded when I said 'no' where I earlier had said 'sounds nice' or 'good idea'. Now, in the end we figured out that we just speak about things differently. If she suggests that we should go to a party on Saturday and I answer 'sounds good' I mean 'sounds good, but I'll have to see when Saturday comes' while she of course hear 'sounds good, I'll come' and got very disappointed if I chose to stay at home or do something else.
Have you talked to him about it? I know it took us 2-3 arguments before we reached some sort of understanding where both have to be clearer. You have to figure out if this is what's happening to you to, or if he really says very clearly that he is going to do something and then cancels it.
If the latter is the case you should talk to him about that, it could be that the distance is to much of a problem. Good luck though.
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