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*ovemeright11
writes:I just don't understand my boyfriend. He enjoys drinking, but when I am not around he does crazy things when people are around. Its like he needs to be the entertainment. People always look to him for the entertainment and whatever idea they come up with that they would never do they know he might. So to give some examples of the stuff, one is that a female friend of ours threw up after drinking some beer into a bowl so he chose to try and drink her puke. WTF is that and why would he even do this its gross and almost makes me rethink who i am with. He was drunk while doing this crazy stuff but its very nasty so I just don't get the thinking in his head. I was not around. Another thing he almost did, but ask me how I felt about it was he wanted to clone his dick to make it into a sex toy and give it to one of his friends thinking it would be a funny joke and I told him no and that it made me very upset. He did not do it, but he is 29 years old why the hell is he trying to send his dick to people, and drink puke. I do love him and on the other side of this he treats me well and cares about me deeply but the things he does just make me not want to be with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2012): Its only natural that it will bother you. Either he couldnt remember drinking it or he has lied to you. Either way it was a disgusting and rather disturbed thing to do. If it turns your stomach to think of it and makes you view him in a different light, who could blame you! Personally i couldnt kiss a partner after something like that. It would feel too revolting. You need to have a very serious talk to your boyfriend. He needs a wake up call.
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reader, Lovemeright11 +, writes (3 January 2012):
Lovemeright11 is verified as being by the original poster of the question The thing is the puke drinking thing happened about 2 months ago he told me about it and it made me slightly upset but he told me he did not actually drink it but now a video has surfaced of him doing it and it just bothers me very much now again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): I can understand what you mean, I am not sure that I could handle being with a guy who tried to drink someone else's puke, that's just gross. I certainly wouldn;t be happy if my boyfriend wanted to clone his penis and send it to someone, even if he didn;t go through with it, the intention would be enough to have me thinking about walking away.
I would sit down with him and talk calmly to him about him these things, and tell him I am not comfortable with this kind of behaviour. He doesn't need to be the entertainment for everyone else, and the 2 examples you gave are not entertaining they are just gross to be honest. Be honest with him and that you love him, but you can't handle him going to these extreme behaviour, then go from there. If he continues doing gross things like this and you really can't handle it you may have to walk away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): I understand how worrying and upsetting this must be for you and i question his `friends`! Why would real friends want him to do things they would not do themselves, just so they can (film, no doubt) and laugh at him. Thats sad.
Two things would worry me. If he will do ANYTHING when he is drinking, how can you rely on him being faithful and also, he might hurt himself if he shows off too much and does something really stupid. I imagine when you are around you monitor his drinking to avoid anything bad happening but its not ideal.
Next time he is drunk, you film him and play it back when he is sober. Sometimes people feel amazingly clever and attractive when drunk but the reality can be quite a shock to them! If you feel he is drinking too much then ask him to cut back. If he is unable to cut back or gets mean at the suggestion he tries. Then he probably has a real drinking problem.
I have only ever known of one person who behaved as your partner does when drunk. He is a lovely chap but he had issues with his upbringing. They manifest when he drank excessively. He would became extremely reckless. As with all this type of behaviour it took something dreadful to happen before he stopped.
Before you write this guy off, look deeper and see if you can figure out any reasons why he would become so reckless. Maybe he needs some support to stop drinking or therapy to overcome what ever it is that leads him to behave so inappropriately. If he has a couple of real friends that care about him and are worried too. Maybe you could all stage an intervention before he loses you, hurts himself or shames himself beyond redemption.
He should address any issues he might have. And you need to acquaint him with some boundaries in no uncertain terms before he goes completely over the line.
If nothing works and he continues to behave badly then it goes without saying that you will start to go off him. If that happens and you leave, he will only have himself to blame.
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reader, bearN  +, writes (3 January 2012):
 OMG!!! I would run away. And call myself an IDIOT to love such a guy. Its obvious people hear will tell you to move on. But, will you able to love and forgive him? You got to take the decision. I was about to puke after having read his way of entertaining people. I guess he has lost his mind.
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