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writes:Hello,Ive been in High School for three years.Ive had 2 serious relationships, that turned out to be lame.Now I found Brad.Brad is seriously awesome, he gets along with my friends, he gives me everything I need, he's known me all my life, he's been there for me when i needed it and he's the sweetest guy alive (Hes super cute, too! :) ) But the problem here is horrible.About two weeks ago, he lied to me.There was a rumor going around, that he kissed one of his best friends (who is a girl), her name is Jane.After hearing that my boyfriend was 'a Lil' Cheater' from my EX, Brad called me and told me it was all a lie, me believing him, I laughed at the stupid rumor.The next day, I didnt go to school because I was sick, and he was online during school hours, surprised, I talked to him, he told me that he was about to tell me something that might result in me wanting to dump him!. he told me that he kissed Jane, BUT the day before they went out, and it was a big mistake, (SHE KISSED BACK, SHE HAD A BOYFRIEND AT THE TIME) I told him not to worry, because I loved him and it was the day before we went out, so technically it wasn't cheating...Then that night Jane came on.She asked me what I knew, and I said stuff."Meaghan, tell me what you really know, I'll tell you the truth" Is what she said.I told her everything I knew, and she told me Brad was lying. She told me that yes, he did kiss her the day before we started dating, AND then he tried to kiss her a week into the relationship! She didnt kiss him back that time... So I didnt hold anything against Jane... I ended it with Brad. and asked him why he lied, he said he didn't want me to dump him because he loved me too much.I try'd to date him again a few days later, but I couldn't, holding his hand felt like torture, and I couldn't look in his eyes.We still talk.i still love him.He's asking for me back, I miss him so much..But will I ever be able to trust him again?Should I bother dating him, when he lied to me, and cheated on me?HELP MEEEEE!
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reader, unknown goddess  +, writes (8 November 2009):
I've been in a similar situation before and to be honest...if you take him back, he will do it again. He will say "I won't do it again." obviously but thats a lie, he might not intentionally mean to do it again when he says it but he will do it again if given the chance.You're young and you sound like a loving girl, find someone else who wont hurt you.Good luck :)x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 November 2009):
I wouldn't bother. You're still young, so you will find someone else who won't hurt you. This guy doesn't reallly know what he wasnts. Unforutnately guys his age can be all over the place. But don't go back out with someone who's hurt you, when there's someone else who won't.
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