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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend just cheated on me yesterday, and he told me today..... now last year I had a lot of issues with boys and a lot of trust issues, but he still cheated! He felt this girl down, that I know, she's in my grade. I love him soo much, but he's totally lost my trust and I'm giving him a second chance, cuz I've been in his position before but I don't know what to do exactly... I'm soo hurt but I love him soo much!! pleass please help, I'm a wreck right now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): Relationships can't survive without trust, no matter how much you love him. Without trust you might end up totally controlling him (e.g. asking him where he is and who he's with all the time, constantly checking his mobile etc). Did he know about the trust issues that you have with guys before he cheated? If so then he's such a loser and possibly was trying to knock your confidence with guys even more, get rid. If not then he still shouldn't have cheated, he knew that it was going to hurt you. Dump him and move on. Find someone who is faithful and who you won't lose your trust with. After all, you are only young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): if he can do it once he'll do it again and once he knows that u'll keep giving him chances he isn't gonna stop tell him to get lost and also future boy friends might be told this and cheat on u 2 coz they no that they can also itz really embarrassing and upsetting to find this out especially if it is infront of friendsbut in the end its ur decision and i hope u mak the right 1
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reader, Skeez  +, writes (8 September 2007):
 It really is up to you if you want to take him back.
But I have reasons for both parties on why you should and shouldnt.
Ok I think you shouldnt becuase you are still young. You still have exams and school work to get through and your GCSE 's and I tell you they can be very stressful. My boyfriend cheated on me after 4 months we went out and we have lasted over a year now, but he cheated while I was studying for exams. I couldnt think straight coz I was paranoid that he was going to go and do it again behind my back. I have not fully gained my trust for him and whenever an attractive girl comes past us I get jealous and insecure. I did not get the best grades I had been hopeful for and what my teachers were expecting of me and I had a hard time dealing with the relationship. Also when the people you think love you cheat on you. its going to affect your later relationships. your going to feel conscious about yourself thinking that they are going to go do it again becuase you think ur ugly. and etc etc. Its not a nice thing to deal with for so long.
Also for the reason why I think you should is becuase some people change. All people make mistakes. bad or very bad. Sometiems you just have to give them the second chance to redeem themselves. Also I think before you take him back. ask him why he did it. he has to have a reason for it. If he replies with 'I dont know' then hes lying. The reasons why he would do it are simple:
He doesnt love you anymore.
He finds this girl sexually attractive.
Hes bored.
Hes young and doesnt want to be tied down in a relationship.
or there may be other reasons
Ask him why he did it and after fidning out. then decide if you want to get back with him. you know each response a person gives will give you a different idea dn dessicion. Liek if my boyfriend did it becuase he found this girl sexually attractive. I would probably tke him back becuase all men find other girls nice, but i would also keep a very good eye on him and if it happened again then hes gone. If he didnt love me anymore I would break up with him. and etc etc.
Have a second thought about this love and i hope u choose the rigth dessicion and things go well for you.
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reader, Gemini1506 +, writes (8 September 2007):
Give him this chance. i say wait a month or so if you still cant trust him just leave him, whats a relationship without trust?
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (8 September 2007):
At your age you should be learning how to judge other people. I suggest you try again to find a more respectful boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): i know u feel that hes the only guy for you right now, but once a cheater always a cheater. u shouldnt waste any more time n this guy who obviously doesnt know how to treat girls right. its hard i now but u have to move on. trust me!
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