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writes:I don't know whether to stay with my boyfriend. I feel the relationship lacks spontaneity. He's 21 and I'm 16. My parents love him and vice versa. He's a lovely guy, very hardworking, and has plans for the future but I just feel that I'm getting bored. Does this have anything to do with the fact that I'm young or are we just not suited? We're completely different. I'm always up for a laugh, going mad, whereas he's far less outgoing. I really don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2007): Well, I don't think it's the age gap as much as the fact that you're completely different. Your parents love him b/c he seems to have his future planned, but you're only 16 & you want to have fun..I say go have your fun while you still can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): Dear, you are at any age where many young females like to date a variety of males. Teen dating should be all about fun and learning about relationships and meeting new people. Teen dating is a period of 'learning and developing' themselves for adulthood and more intense, serious relationships. I feel perhaps, this relationship may be far too serious for you. I can't say what is happening in your relationship with this fellow but to me, it could be that you are indeed, either bored or overwhelmed with the seriousness of this dating relationship. It sounds to me, you want to have just fun and at 16...you should be thinking that way! You are young, full of life and there is plenty of time, down the road for serious relationships. I recommend, you consider taking a break from this relationship and going it on your own for awhile. You take a chance as you may lose a great guy..but I have to say...when you are ready to settle down once you reach adulthood, you will know it and you will find a great guy. There are a ton of them out there .Everyone should enjoy their teen years to the max...have fun, make new friends, date a lot of people.Just make sure whatever you do, that anyone who comes into your life treats you with respect. Dating is fun, not about causing or tolerating BS. Keep using your head and keep it all in persepective.. Good luck, dear
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reader, Skeez  +, writes (8 September 2007):
 It could be something to do with your age gap. I mean Im 16 and my boyfriend is 19. Hes legal to drink so whenever we go to the pub with his friends they can all drink and I cant so I get bored, and when they get drunk I feel left out. He can go to 18 plus movies and I cant coz I look younger than I actually am.
And plus if your the outgoing person and he isnt then that also maybe something that is affecting you.
Tell him you are getting slightly worried about the relationship, dont mention your boredom coz that will probably offend him. But if you two really love eahc other Im very sure you can both find something exiting to do together. But if not then maybe find someone your own age.
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reader, Gemini1506 +, writes (8 September 2007):
It probably is. You need to make the most of your teenager years and have fun. Tell your boyfriend what you really want to do. If it's not for him i say move on and enjoy yourself. You might realise that he is the one for you. or that your still young and you dont need to be tied downBest wishes either way
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