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My boyfriend cheated on me but I forgave him. He still keeps in touch and has had lunch with her since. Is it time to finally let go?

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Question - (27 February 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 4 March 2007)
A female United States age 36-40, *funk writes:

My boyfriend cheated on me with his friend. I decided to stay with with him but i told him that i could never forget what happend. I have forgiven him for the incident. But lately I've found them eating lunch and dinner together. He doesn't like to talk about her but how can we work through this if her keeps her in his life and expects me to be ok with it. Knowing how I feel about them. Am i wrong for feeling upset about this? Is it time to finally let him go?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007):

Dump him. He will continue to see her. If you stay together you will always be wondering if he is seeing her behind your back. If he loved you propertly he would NOT be in contact with her. I have been in your situation, only I married him and had a child with him. 5 years later we are divorced, going through custody battles and he is STILL in contact with this woman (even though we moved to Australia together from England and she is still in England). End it with this man NOW before it is too late to escape.

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A female reader, AskEve United Kingdom +, writes (27 February 2007):

AskEve agony auntYou told him you were hurt and upset, you didn't like it and how does he repay you? By keeping contact with her and having lunch and dinner with her!!! Does that show respect for your feelings?

Your feelings are absolutely founded in this case. How can you possibly trust him when you KNOW for a fact he's cheated on you with her before yet they're still having cosy lunches together? The way he's looking at it is this... "she's took me back once, she'll deal with it because she's crazy on me..."

DON'T let him treat you this way. Dump the loser love, he's laughing at you behind your back with this woman and he's now rubbing your nose in it. DUMP HIM and find someone who will treat you with more respect.

Eve

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A male reader, Cheese New Zealand +, writes (27 February 2007):

Cheese agony auntI personally would let him go, i know it will be hard since you love him and all but he shouldn't be having any contact with her if he wants a relationship with you, its just not right.

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