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writes:I'm really at a loss right now. My bf has broken up with me, but I'm not sure if it'll be permanent. It all started when we agreed to get an apartment together, so I picked up a second job to pay for school and get ready for the apartment. However, he ended up getting a job at the same place and then got promoted. I didn't quit, because we knew the second job is temporary. However, we got critical of each other, so I decided to go ahead and quit. Right before I did, we had had a fight but in theory "made up" but told me he didn't want to live with me anymore. Then he avoided me completely the following week. So, when I did finally talk to him to see if everything's ok and if there's anything I can do, he breaks up with me saying it's not me it's him. This was rather sudden, and in general he can be an impulsive guy but turn around quickly. However, I am shocked and hurt and confused. I want to work things out with him, because we have been together for almost a year, and it's been amazing. Furthermore, I don't think it's something like he cheated on me, because the time window he had for that was too short, and (I'm not saying this to delude myself) I don't think he's that kind of guy. For now, I am leaving him alone and giving him his space, but I don't know if he'll come back or not. I would like to hear what you think about the situation and your advice on the matter.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (4 September 2009):
 he could have said it in the heat of the moment because he was angry but i would have thought if hed had regretted it he would have contacted you by now however he probably doesnt want to be a hypicrit by contacting you maybe.or in the worst case he just couldnt see a future between you or maybe he was too scared to commit and things were moving abit to fast which scared him out of the relationship. he probably wont contact you now but if you want him back id say contact him and ask if you can meet up to talk as you need an explanation properly for the break up but still in this case if he doesnt want to then you really have to move on
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