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writes:I'm not sure what I am doing, I keep blowing hot and cold with this guy who I really like.We have known each other for a few years, never dated but we used to work together, we have kissed a few times, he wanted more but I said not at work but I was really scared to move on from a kiss although deep down I wanted to. Now he dosn't work with me and he wants us to meet up, so we can basically sleep together (he has said), I really like him and I do want to sleep with him but I just lack the confidence, I suggested we just meet up for a kiss and he said that's fine but he thought I wanted the same as him which I do, should I just say that I want to but lack confidence or should I just leave it and say nothing, what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): he is not a gentleman if he has actually said he wants to meet you so he can sleep with you. I think you would be better off without him.
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reader, APowerfulEnergy  +, writes (4 September 2009):
I guess my morals are a little different and not every human has the same beliefs. ..but if I were you I would never sleep with a man. especially if there isn't any commitment involved . I know you like him and that is what can blind most women, but if you want to save the regret, because it sounds like he is using you for a tool, then I suggest you not sleep with him at all.If thats all he wants to meet up for, then I'd stay far far away. I'm not having sex until someone puts a ring on my finger, if they don't so be it, there is no need to be co-dependant. If you feel you can't do that, then darlin' atleast wait for a man that actually likes you and just doesn't want to handle you and toss you around like some blow up doll slut. You are a human honey, you are a gift, think hard before you make a regretful decision.
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (4 September 2009):
 dont tell him that you lack confidence it will just put him off! to be honest do you just want no strings sex with him i mean you said you really like him why not get into a relationship. if your worried just tell the guy that your not up for sex unless your in a relationship and if he's not prepared for that then he doesnt have much respect for you and id move on to someone you will feel comfortable around who will respect you. having no strings sex could lead to him not calling you afterwards or thinking your a booty call and it wont help with your self esteem you need to get into a relationship with someone feel comfortable and when your ready to have sex then do it
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