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writes:I am currently with a guy that I really like. We've been dating for just about 4 months, and although we definitely have our problems, we are very close, and I've never been so close to and loved by any guy in my life. Unfortunately, over the past few weeks, we haven't seen each other and have been having a rough patch due to some thoughtless words that didn't come out right. I was talking to my ex, who is my very close friend, about the problems for comfort, and we started joking around like we always do. Suddenly, the jokes turned serious, and he confessed that he still had feelings for me and knew that I had feelings for him. I was floored. I still harbored feelings for him because he was the second person I had ever kissed, but I had no idea he still liked me too. Not an hour after that conversation, my boyfriend called me to apologize and patch things up, realizing the way his words must have sounded to me. It was bizzare. Now, my boyfriend and I are trying to patch things up, but there's still the distracting knowledge of my ex's affections putting a strain on my relationships with both guys. I dont know what to do! I care for my boyfriend so very much, but that hasn't erased my feelings for my early love. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 Well how long were you with your ex? Was it a real relationship or just a kiss? Why did you break up?
Generally the rule is that an ex is an ex for a good reason - hence why you should never go back there. If it did not work out once, then clearly there are problems in that relationship therefore it wont work out a second time around.
I would say you should stay with your current boyfriend and try and put a bit of distance between you and your ex - you can never be friends if you still have feelings for each other because there are alterior motives behind the friendship. If you still want to be friends then fine, but try not to be so close to him as its not fair on your boyfriend that you are talking to another guy behind his back.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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