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writes:I am 24. My mom is 44 she and divorced. has been happier and dressing more attractively lately. one day when I was looking after her garden I came in to get a drink and I saw her lying nude with some guy. It looked like she was having sex. I returened back quietly so she would not see me. Should I let her know that I saw her? Should I ask her what is going on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2022): You didn't see anything, so what's there to tell? She's an adult, she is in her own home, and you should respect her privacy. You don't need to tell her what you saw, considering she was there and a willing participant.
I think the true question behind your question is, should you express your disapproval? The answer to that would be emphatically "NO!" It's none of your business. You're an adult, and she probably just assumed you'd excuse yourself as soon as you realized what was going on. I would agree with you that she could have used much more discretion; if she was aware you could walk-in on them. This is one of those situations where you have to bite your tongue, and let it ride.
Let's say the roles were reversed. It's your house, and she walks-in on you and a gentleman; but neither of you were aware of it. Would you want her to tell you what she saw? If the point is to humiliate her, and your intent is malicious; I don't think our advice would matter.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 February 2022):
 She is a single woman, and you are a grown man, so she can do what she wants in HER house.
If you do feel you need to mention it, just say, I'm sorry if I interrupted you X-day when I went inside for a drink. IF she wants to discuss it she will. If not, respect that.
You are not in control of her sex life or life at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2022): You don't need to ask her what was going on, you just told us she was having sex with a guy so you know already. Don't tell her you saw her and leave it at that. She was foolish to do it when you were in the garden and could walk in at any moment anyway. Don't be surprised if similar things happen in the future.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (31 January 2022):
 She knew you were only out in the garden, and knew that you could come in at anytime. I'm suprised that she got naked with some guy knowing you you were in close proximity.
No i would not broach the subject with her, or ask her what was going on, i would just leave it.
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