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writes:Hi just wanted someone to talk to for advice really ok this is a long one i was/been in a relationship for nearly 6 years my bfriend is the father to my two children we have been living together almost on and off the same time we have been dating, we have had many ups and downs my mum died last year so i havent got any lose family left well not who i am in touch with, everything was fine until thurs he came back off a work course and was moody saying he was tired we then had an argument cos he misplaced his phone, we evenually found it i felt he was blaming me he then ignored me right up until fri evening he said he needed time out to sort his head out, he then left no phoncall/text all night i was worried then he just turns up the next day, starting loading his car with stuff i said to him if hes going to take it all, this led into an argument then me throwing it all out of the window, he was going to leave me again alone with no family to deal with a house two dogs and two children while he goes up his mums for i dont know how long eventually he left without a word,i then had a phonecall off his mum who i dont really get on with saying he was very upset and that i should be ashamed of myself, we agreed she would come today to collect the rest of his stuff, anyway i went and sold his games station as he left me all week without car/money this caused a huge argument with her accusing me of being a gold digger and it was just about money which is not true we have always rented and have seperate accounts yes i had sole use of the car which was on finance bnut thats all now i am left very upset as they were ganging up on me infront of my children i dont know what to think now
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (13 August 2012):
 I agree with BondGirl. Selling his games without his permission was a bold move bound to fan the flames, and not entirely motivated by financial stress. You've been having money troubles for a while yet you only sold the games after a fight. See how that looks?
I don't doubt both of you have valid grievances but neither of you seem to possess the skills to deal with them more effectively.
You could have an ally in his mum if you played your cards right.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (12 August 2012):
 What you should think is that you are rid of this family, that is, unless you decide to take him back at some point. Honestly, this is why people place a lot of importance on marriage. If you don't want to be left high and dry with a house, children, dogs, and bills to pay, then you take adequate time getting to know someone before you get in a relationship and then hopefully get married. You weren't married, so however it ends is however it ends. I hate to be so glum, but what did you think would happen when you sold his stuff (even if you felt a right to do so)? I would leave the situation alone now and don't contact the boyfriend anymore unless it is only to see your children.
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