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writes:My boyfriend and his mom are very controlling towards me. I kind of live with him, but not all the time. I have alot of friends that want to spend time with them, but every time I want to hang out with my friends my boyfriend and his mom goes off on me. I don't know what to do, I have to think I have to listen to them or I will not be able to do anything for a long time. It seems like they own me and I can't make choices on my own. I don't know what to do. Should I get out of the situation so that I can do what I choose to do or should I listen to what my boyfriend and his mom tells me to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Cherries Needs Help +, writes (24 April 2007):
Cherries Needs Help is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well I would like to thank everyone for the advice. But see the thing is my ex-boyfriend now broke-up with me because I went out with my friend. I guess comprimising isn't going to happen. Thank you though.
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reader, Selphie142  +, writes (22 April 2007):
Have you spoken to them about how you feel? They might not necessarilary see what they're doing as upsetting you. Also, if they are really controlling and you feel like you want to stay with your boyfriend... try compromising. Try organising a party or a get together for them and your friends. They might like being in charge of the organisation and might be able to use that to have some enthusisum towards your guests. You might need to let them invite some friends (a compromise - you have friends, they have some friends).
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (21 April 2007):
 Hi hun
your only young and I am sure you love your boyfriend very much but if you need time to go out with your friends then do it no one should be controlling you if this is what you want to do.. The only people who have that right is your parents but that is only if they have cause for concern reguarding the type of friends you have eg if they are into drugs etc...
If this is making you unhappy then tell them if this doesn't resolve the situation then I would consider moving on do you want to spend the rest of you life pleasing others or yourself, it sounds to me that this is making you unhappy already, so you need to rethink what it is you really want from life and move on to a better future if this situation continues.
Good luck babes xx
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