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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years we have gotten in a very big fight. He is out of town for work for three months. My boyfriend calls me once a day and thinks it is enough to sustain a relationship. He doesn't acknowledge me on social media now and when he came home for four days he didn't want to see me he only wanted to see his friends. So him and his friends went on a road trip. I was very upset because he said he only give me one day. He told me that his life doesn't revolve around me. I understand that. But Now i wont see him for another two months. When I asked if I could fly out and see him he told me no because he was working the entire time. I recently caught him commenting on a girls facebook who he had hooked up with prior to our relationship being borderline flirty. Such as telling her how he missed her and how great she looked. When i Called him out on it he said he was sorry and he would never do it again. Now I caught him doing it with someone he had yet again had sex with prior to us dating. He had told me they were friends when I recently found out they had hooked up. I had gotten so angry between the distance and that he had kept this secret from me all along. I feel stupid enough to let him continue to keep in touch here and there with her. After all this i said some very hurtful comments attacking his character. He continued to ignore me and deny it. So i blew up his phone with even more hurtful voicemail's and texts. He is now currently mad at me and thinking about breaking up with me. What should I do and where did I go wrong?
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reader, tiakef  +, writes (28 June 2014):
 you didn't do anything wrong, there is a saying 'what's meant to b, will b.' If he wants you and only you then girl chill he will come back n hopefully change, but never say its your fault and don't apologize for something that you thought you did but in reality didn't do. To me he is probably cheating but since i don't have enough evidence to say that as a fact, am not sure. I am sure you love him but u need to get out there and find some1 that you deserve
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2014): I don't think you did anything wrong. If i were you i would end the relationship i wouldn't let him decide if he wants to be with you or not i would just chose to end it with him and move on and get a guy who you deserve and wants to actually be with you.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (12 June 2014):
 He doesn't want to spend quality time with you, you are not his priority, he doesn't want you to visit him, he doesn't acknowledge you on social media, he thinks a phone call once a day is sufficient.
Now he is threatening to break up with you ..... you ask what you should do and where did you go wrong, to be honest I don't think you did anything wrong, I think the relationship has run its course and rather than worry about him 'thinking' about breaking up with you, it would be best for you to consider if this relationship is what you want, and if it isn't save him the trouble of 'thinking' and break it off with him!
Spend a few weeks grieving the loss of the relationship and thinking about what sort of relationship/boyfriend, would add to your life, rather that detract from it.
You are unhappy, you are unfulfilled, this relationship is not bringing joy or happiness, you may have outgrown it or he might simply not care about nourishing it, either way its time to call it a day.
Good luck!
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