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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend always talks about his ex partners or people he's slept with, he makes it a subject and it really upsets me. We've been together a year and I don't want to leave him because I love him.I've told him to stop talking about it but he never does and he tells me its my problem.What should I do?
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (14 August 2007):
This might be bad advice, I don't know. But what if you revered it and talked about past boyfriends and intimate moments with them?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (14 August 2007):
Thats really disrespectful of your bf by talking about his ex gf's like he is. Its even worse when you have told him how it makes you feel and he continues to do it, and just blames it on you, saying its 'your problem'. I know you love him, but sometimes lovnig someone isnt enough to have a healthy and happy relationship. I would give it another go at trying to make him understand how much it upsets you and make the point that you WILL NOT accept him. Tell him you feel its disrespectful when he does that and ask him if he would like you to talk about any guy you may have slept with.
If he says he doesnt midn then its obvious you both have very very different values and you have to ask yourself, will being in a relationship with somoene whose values are so differeent gonig to work? Usualy they dont unfortunately :(
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reader, flower girl +, writes (14 August 2007):
 It's not you're problem at all, you have told him how you feel and he is now disrespecting you by carrying on doing this.
You say you love him but why do you want to stay with someone that is treating you in this way, if you can't finish with him because you love him and he is not prepared to stop, then i'm affraid you are just going to have to deal with it.
All the time you stay with him and accept what he is doing he is just going to carry on.
Take care.xx.
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