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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been going out for quite a bit now... He's 16 and i'm 14 :). He's going into the army soon and he has proposed to me. I said yes because i thought it was right :) . the only thing is i don't know how to tell my parents and if i'm actually allowed by law so please give me your answers Reply to this Question
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reader, Seansters +, writes (20 February 2011):
It's 16 with your parents consent, 17 without. Also, don't marry him yet. You're 14 which is way too young, he's 16 which is way too young, and I'm guessing you haven't been together that long. You have your whole lives to come, and if you do end up getting married in the future, great, but a lot is going to happen to you both over the next decade. Is this your first serious relationship? You'd be awfully lucky to find 'the one' at such an early age. Go to college, go to uni, go travelling, get the career you want, enjoy your youth and then think about getting married and settling down.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 The min.legal age is 16 ( which is terribly too early anyway for getting married if you ask me ). Before that, it's not legal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): You are way too young to get married. I know you feel really strongly about this but trust me you will be a different person 10 years from now. Heck even 5 years from now you may be a very different person. You should not be making huge adult-decisions when you're only 14, because in 2 or 3 years time you really could completely change your mind.
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reader, Rose22  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 With parental consent, you can marry at 16 in England. Without it, you have to be 18.
so there you go, unless you get consent you have to be 18.
i would like to tell you something because i feel it is relevant to your question.
i am 16, my boyfriend is also 16. he is going to the army soon as well and i know im going to miss him a lot. we always discuss getting married in the future and as of recently we have decided that when we both have the money we are going to buy each other promise rings. as a promise ring means that i want to be with him for the rest of my life but we are just not settled enough for a marriage right now. it doesn't mean it wont happen, its a promise that it will.now for why this is relevant to you and your situation.
you are 14, your boyfriend is 16. your boyfriend is going to the army. i would like to tell this. as a mature person i think that you should wait to get married. at 14 many things could change with your life. you may think you will be with this guy forever now and he might think the same but things change. thats what makes this life worth living. but as i said i know how you feel. you want something that makes you feel like you are together when he is away, you want to know that he is yours not matter what. i understand that. so what i think you should do is maybe follow the same thing me and my bf are going to do, buy each other promise rings, if you really think that you will always be together.
about what your mum will probably think, as you are young and in her eyes her baby. the chance are she will think you are joking. she most probably wont give you consent as she will say that you are too young and dont know what you really want in your life.
so tell your bf that you want to be with him forever. tell him that you would like to get a promise ring that means that you love him.
all the best, i really hope that i ave helped you in some way.
redrose
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): I personally do not think U shud marry him because one, he is going to the army which can mean a lot of traveling, and two, you are way to young to be married. You r only fourteen. You have a whole life ahead of you so I think you should go out and live it
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): I personally do not think U shud marry him because one, he is going to the army which can mean a lot of traveling, and two, you are way to young to be married. You r only fourteen. You have a whole life ahead of you so I think you should go out and live it
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): I don't know what age you have to be in England. But I will say a few things for you. I don't want to destroy your thunder but, consider some of the following... First, If you can't tell your parents, I doubt you are mature enough to get married. Second, if he is going into the Army, I suggest you have a long engagement (maybe a promise ring...did he give you an engagement ring?) And get married when he returns. I think you should consider there is only a 5% chance that teenagers stay married. You have so much time, and you change so much in just the early 20's that I would tell you to wait till at least 22-24 years of age. I know that seems like an eternity right now, but the best thing you can do is get things solidified in your life and take care of your needs and then you can truly be together. But if you want to find out just put the question in google...I am sure it will direct you to the answer. (Just as a side note be very careful, because of your age difference, if you two were intimate, depending on when they declare him as an adult it could be statutory rape...even if you consent! And he could get in large amounts of trouble, so make sure to protect him)
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