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anonymous
writes:I have been working in this office from past 7+years. I worked hard and proved my skills to my bosses during my tenant.But now from few months, my boss's sister has started coming to the office. She lacks practical knowledge but trying to become my boss. Although I give her full respect and work sincerely, yet she spreads bad blood against me and my behaviour , give false reports to her brothers (my boss), sometimes in front of me and sometimes at home (behind me)..This is affecting my professional life as well as my terms with my bosses. Moreover, her brothers treats her as an innocent girl and love her so much. I m confused how should I handle this situation... It is really troubling me a lot.I have tried to be more polite with her but in vain... I think she is doing it deliberately. Please help me how can I handle this situation with out losing my respect in their eyes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2008): Thanks to all my friend who have replied ....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): Oh Dear sorry for that, actually this same shit is happening to me at my work place as well. i work for an NGO recently my boss brought in her boyfriend's kid brother for a short training in IT, and unfortunately the kid brother started talking about me to his brother basically insulting me and then to the boss.
The boss due to the inlaw's words immediately came to me with a last warning letter without any explnations, in the first placei have never recieved any warning letter but to my surprise or HR surprise i was given a last warning letter.
this is still continueing, i proposed to give the kid brother a job to kind of resolve issues undermining that his unqulified, but still the boy goes behind me... i am confused as well.
these habit of bosses bringing in relatives is a mess, what can i do.... confused.
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reader, miss know it all  +, writes (11 September 2008):
im so sorry you are being put through this but this so called girl is probably jealous of the way you work and that you are good at what you do so shes trying to destroy that by mking false accusations aboout you to make herself look better. Shes also jealous because you have alot more knowledge than what she does. Why dont you calmly have a word with her brothers your boss and explain the situation and how it is making you feel and they should hopefully reason with you and have a quiet word with there sister and hopefully she will lay off you. I really hope things work out for you and you carry on doing the work you enjoy.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): Hello. What a shame. Both my sister and I have been there - at different times and places - faced with a woman who seems determined to destroy you. It is a shocking thing that people sometimes are like this -whether because of jealousy or insecurity, or who knows. I was accused of stealing by this woman.
What I did was go straight to the absolute boss and tell him the situation. It was obvious that I was sincere and innocent, and he accepted what I said. The woman was not punished, but I don't think she rose any further in the company. I ended up leaving anyway but at least with a clear reputation.
So if there is someone above the brothers, then you could tell them calmly what is happening. Otherwise, stop taking this! When she criticises you in front of other people, interject, and say politely and calmly that she is mistaken, and give reasons. If you hear other stuff she has said, discuss it with anyone around, as if you are laughing at how abusrd it is. If you are clear about what she has said (and it's easy to become paranoid) ask her about it, very nicely, and ask her why she is saying these things. Stop this game with as much humour and common sense as you can.
Otherwise get a written reference from someone who knows and trusts you in the company as soon as possible. That way you are defended if anything worse happens.
Best of luck! Honestly, sometimes these people make me cross :)
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