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writes:right, this sounds ridiculous...I measured my penis- yes I'm an insecure arse...and I measured 6 inches (15.2 centimeters) and 1.6 inches wide, around-(4.1 centimeters in width )is this a pleasurable sized penis for a woman. I've been with my current girlfriend for 5 months...we make love regularly and for long periods of time, however she has only climaxed 3 times through actual intercourse...she is able to have multiple orgasms through manual and oral stimulation. I generally keep steady during sex, slow and sensual, using the 9-1 thrusting pattern, or moving in circles, or sometime just as deeply as possible...its seems as she is very close to orgasm, but I cant bring her over the top. What can I do to improve this?Maybe I'm not going deep enough ( we have tried deep penetration techniques, where she feels me deeply)- I have also squeezed my PC muscles when deeply penetrating, and not moving...this seems also highly pleasurable, but not enough to bring her to orgasm. Sometimeswe make love very roughly, she said that would have done it, had I been able to continue longer, but to do so I would have to have been on some kind of drug. Any advice? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your kind and helpful answers. Thanks smiles for the g spot advice! I've started with the G spot massage, and initially she thought it felt fine. But I would continue for a long time, and she would seem to like it, but then told me to stop. I tried something different, massaging in circles the vagina, slowly and softly, she liked that too. But then I got to the g-spot and she liked that a lot...but the pressure was totally different than previously. It was soft, whereas before I used very firm pressure. I didn't want to be too light then.
Eventually she wanted me insider her...but I wanted to take this as far is it would go, as I've often heard that g-spot orgasm is amazing. She really really wanted me inside. I was torn as to weather I should continue or not. Eventually she told me that It hurt so I stopped. Do I need to alter touch, go faster eventually, change pressure at some point?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (11 September 2008):
 Hi, it sounds like you've got a very satisfied lover in your hands, and I think you're worrying unneccessarily. I think the number of women who orgasm through vaginal penetration alone is something like one-third. Two-thirds need clitoral stimulation, as you've been doing.
Think of it this way, your penis actually physiologically corresponds with her clitoris. Your scrotum corresponds with her vagina. During embryonic development, when the sex organs begin to differentiate into male and female, those cells that make a penis in males make the clitoris in women, and the cells that make the scrotum form the vagina in women. So while you might find stimulation of your scrotum pleasurable, you might not necessarily orgasm from it. Does that make sense?
The G-spot seems to be the 'base' of the clitoris, which is actually longer and deeper than it seems from the surface. Most of it is buried into the pubic area, angling toward the vagina. So by stimulating the G-spot, you're actually stimulating that clitoral complex. It's all a package inside and outside.
So stop thinking that you're inadequate in some way. You sound MORE than adequate, in fact, you sound like a fantastic lover and she's probably VERY happy with you!
Here's some useful reading to help you understand her a little better:
http://men.webmd.com/features/6-sex-mistakes-men-make
http://men.webmd.com/guide/sex-fact-fiction?page=1
Have fun and don't worry so much. You're doing everything right, from what you wrote.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): 1st of all: Your penis size is average. There's nothing wrong with it and I'm sure pretty much all women would be happy with a man who had a panis of this size.
Ok I think that you need to relax more. You're too self-conscious and worried about what she's thinking and feeling to actually go with the flow and enjoy yourself. I know you want to pleasure her, but you can and you are. Sometimes it is hard for a woman to orgasm during penetration. I think it is actually more common than not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): Dear Poster
The Missionary Position can lead to powerful orgasms for women; but it is important that the right pressure is applied. To get it right you need to know where the famous G-spot is and how to stimulate it.
Once she is aroused, insert one or two fingers into your partner’s vagina, with the palm of your hand on her pubic mound;just inside the vagina you should be able to feel a coin-sized lump beneath your fingertips. It feels spongy, or a bit like a walnut; stroke it gently but firmly and you might feel it swell.
(She might like you to give her an orgasm in this way, or she might prefer to have you inside her).
To continue the G-spot stimulation( you can try what’s called the Realignment Technique). Lie flat and slide up toward her head. Encourage her to vary the angle of her legs and torso to where she feels the most sensation.
Remember that not everyone’s vagina runs into the body at the same angle, so experiment with different positions until you find one that well, hits the spot.
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You can enter her vagina from behind, with her either kneeling or lying on the bed. She can also lie with her buttocks on the edge of the bed and her legs on your shoulders while you stand or kneel beside the bed. This will ensure that your penis is at an upward angle, maximizing contact with the G-spot. In this position you’d be better off concentrating on rhythmic, firm pressure, rather than thrusting as though you’re in a rodeo.
Hope this is of some assistance.
Best wishes, have fun and enjoy!
Lots of SMILES!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): I'm in complete agreement with the above responses. I cannot orgasm thru intercourse, but have a great time with it anyway! Your penis sounds fine (good length etc..) & you sound very attentive, so it's all good.
Do what you're doing and the only other thing I can suggest, which is something I'm looking at doing, is learning about female ejaculation which teaches women to have g-spot orgasms ... it's also known as "squirting". Have a look at different websites -- being a guy, you might feel comfortable with http://au.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_150/184_love_tip.html
Enjoy!!
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reader, vix100 +, writes (11 September 2008):
 Please don't worry - penetration is fab, but some women can't orgasm through penetration alone. It has nothing to do with the size of a man's penis or technique. However, you could try a position which rubs against her clitoris. It sounds like you have a fantastic sex life together and I'm sure she is entirely satisfied, but experimenting is always great too!
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