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writes:My boss is a bully, he belittles my ideas and opinions,isolates me at work and even doesn't give me any feedback unless its negative. i have asked for a job evaluation and he has not replied my email.I cant just quit because i have a family to support.I have been looking around for plan B, soliciting for capital to start a business,..someone has promised but has not yet come through.I have been thinking of starting a business on the side and quit when the business catches up. but today i feel like quitting before anything come through. Which is pretty a bad idea.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (20 August 2014):
 It's always difficult to work under a boss who doesn't seem to give a darn about you or your ideas. HOWEVER, he is "the boss".... and he probably knows that he needs to have you on the payroll.....
That said, I suggest that you do an Internet search of "managing your manager".... I believe I took a seminar which had this title, back in my working days. What I learned was not just my own survival.... but also, how to manipulate (sorry, no other less-conniving word fits!) your boss to behave in ways that you find more tolerable...
With Yeoman patience and practice, you may well be able to evolve your job situation such that it is not only more tolerable... but also, could get to you being more in-charge of your day-to-day tasks and responsibilities... A nice "P.S." is that whatever you learn under "manage your manager" will likely apply if you DO have to set out on your own, with your own enterprise....
Good luck.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2014): Since you really need money, i could understand why you have to stay. But on the other hand if his making things difficult for you, why would you stay?
When you could just look for another job? I also had that kind of boss in the past.
My ideas was always better than his. I always get approval from the higher mgnt. For every projects i proposed.
It did kill his ego. The fact that i am younger, with fresh ideas tortured him. He even tried to stop me joining a meeting with our officers.
But they asked for me. When i did my turn to discuss my proposal, it was fantastic. They love the idea. But him.
You have the option to stay. Since his not firing you yet. But you also have the option to look for another job.
Some people can be so unprofessional and insecure. For all you know his just insecure with you.
The reason could be he or she might see you have a potential and you are a threat to him. Or he just simply dont like you.
Just do your job. Be polite with your boss at all times. Dont go for good. Always what is excellent.
One day you'll see he would regret the bad treatment he have showed you.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (19 August 2014):
 A job is a job! This day in time we all have to put up with a boatload of crap but at least you're employed. stick it out, karma will catch up with him
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (19 August 2014):
 Join the club, my boss is a bitch. I teach in a University and my Head of the Department cant stand me because (a) the Dean is very fond of me and its a known fact that my Head of the Dept is hated by everyone, including the Dean and (b) the students love me.
This women literally cannot stand the sight of me and is also a bitch with the other colleagues because the frustrated woman that she is, she has some bone to pick with everyone. My colleagues also feel like quitting but why let her win, and also, who can really afford to quit?
I tell myself everyday that I should just treat work like work and try not to think about how much I hate my workplace because if I do then there's no end to it. I'll just spiral into a deep depression and that's never going to make anything any better. If something better comes along, I'll quit before you can say Jack Robinson but til then, I'm going to hang on because I'm lucky to have a job in a University in this shitty economy.
The same applies to you OP, Just tell yourself, "this too shall pass". Maybe today was a particularly bad day so it's all the more reason why you should never take a hasty decision which you'll regret.
You know what they say,
"Never make a promise when you're happy,
never reply when you're angry,
and never make decisions when you're sad."
Take a deep breath. Tell yourself that its just a bad day and it shall pass. Continue looking for other avenues but don't quit till you have something concrete in hand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2014): OP you have a future business in the works, something that will free you from having to deal with this boss. Use that as motivation to stick this out. Don't rock the boat, try and keep him sweet for as long as it takes to get yourself up and running.
This won't last forever so just focus on your goal. You could also look for another job while you're working there, it's always easier to get another job when you already have one.
So you do have options, just don't flake on this and quit out of anger or frustration, this is a test for you. As a person who will be running his own business soon you need to be able to be patient and deal with this kind of thing or success may elude you. Remember, this won't last forever but until you have another way of providing for your family you cannot let frustration get the better of you. Stay strong, stay focused on your goals and you'll be fine.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (19 August 2014):
 Banal advice, but.. if you already know that it is a bad idea, then do not do it.
Stiff upper lip. Grin and bear.
There are many people that have to work in less than ideal circumstances, and also with no hope or perspective of changes or improvements.
At least you have a plan B, even if it takes a while to pit it in motion. It's always something to look forward to. I think any bad situation can be dealt with, as long as you know it is not forever - which sounds to be your case.
Good luck.
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