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writes:Right..I've bin havin sex with my b/f for a few months now..when he "broke me in" it was really difficult..it took us at least 4-5 attemps..he has done probably everything imaginable to my body but even after a YEAR! he refuses to show me his penis or any of his body..let alone wank him off or give him a blow job=S Even when we have sex he pulls a cover round us soo i cant see.im confused when i go to his house he forces me to stand in front of him naked makin me feel embarssed.. whats he hiddin from me please help xxalsoo how do you no if you've had your "cherry popped"??
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (26 June 2007):
 I would say you aren't going to do anything he wants until he explains to you why he wont show you his body. It sounds extremely odd to me and worries me the way you say he demands you to stand naked in front of him. Just because you love him doesn't mean he has any right to deman you to do anything!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007): heyaa thanks for your advice i love this lad loads but Im just concerned for mine and his saftey.
He alsoo refusses to show any off any part of his body not just his genitals any one who has experienced this please write x thanks millions =] xxx
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reader, stina +, writes (22 June 2007):
 Eee! Sorry, I obviously read that wrong! ^_^
Put the std idea on the backburner for now, because although it may be a possibility it doesn't seem as likely now. But I still think something is definitly going on here.
Something that I just thought of though - are you positive that he's using a condom and not just saying that he is (if you two are using that method)? I'd be cautious of that since condoms dull the sensation of sex.
But really regardless of what his reasoning is, it is making you uncomfortable and you shouldn't feel that way. If he's unwilling to be honest with you, I think you should refrain from having sex until he can tell you what exactly is going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007): Okay i understand what you are sayin..i have been with this lad for a year and we started havin sex a few months agoo. not the other way around =)
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reader, stina +, writes (22 June 2007):
Okay, my first thought was rather alarming, but I'm not saying this is what going on (thought I should just mention that first). Anyway, on with what I have to say -- you've been with your boyfriend for a few months, but you've been sexually active with him for over a year? So, he has sex without being in a relationship, then. Was he having sexual relations with others while he was having sex with you, too, before you were an exclusive couple? The first thought that came to my mind is that he has an std that he doesn't want you to see... Have you been tested? If not, I think you should do so asap.
The second thought is that he has some kind of deep rooted issues. I'm not sure what they may be, but to me that should be sending red flags up. If I were you, I wouldn't have sex with this guy anymore. Something is wrong with this picture.
Also, why are you giving him a show if you feel embarassed?? Don't do it! You say that he "forces" you when you go to his house - so don't go to his house anymore! Have you told him that you don't want to get naked and show off for him?
Honestly, if I were you, I would not be seeing this guy anymore until I got some straight answers and some RESPECT. He sounds rather creepy, honestly, and may possibly be putting you in some kind of danger. Sorry, but that's my feeling from what you've written about him.
Take care.
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reader, Playgroundcops +, writes (22 June 2007):
She didn't say that it was without her consent.
Seriously, he may be using something other than his penis on you because he's ashamed of his own. They make extentions that slip right over the penis so if you didn't touch it or aren't very experienced, you might not know the difference.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (22 June 2007):
 I think that he has serious problems... If he's forcing you to do anything sexual without your consent, that's called RAPE. Having your "cherry popped" means that you've broken your hymen. It generally happens during sex...
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