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writes:I feel am loosing him.I have been in a long distance relationship for 3 years without seeing or meeting my boyfriend, who went abroad for further studies. We have been communicating everyday by phone,mail and text messages until the for the last 3 months when he stopped calling me or replying my emails/messages. When i speak to him he claims he loves me,thinks about me and wants to marry me when he comes back. He was meant to come back last month but he has extended his stay to 4 more months, with no explanations.I feel that he is playing games, and probably does not love me anymore, which hurts soo bad because i love him soo much. I have decided to dump him and move on with my life. Is this a right decision to make? Please Help me.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (22 January 2007):
 You say like you feel he needs the space so maybe give it a week or so and then send a bright and breezy email telling him how life is going, but avoiding any deep and meaningful stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all the advise. Its been of great help. I have decided to hold on for the 4 months to see what comes next,However, i have a question to ask. Can i keep on communicating to him through calling him, Sending messages and writing emails though i know he will pick my calls but will not answer my emails? Or can i stop the communication too and wait for what will come after the 4 months? I feel he needs time alone to sort himself out and "try to get as much out of this experience as possible".
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reader, melschatbox  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 I feel your pain. I'm not sure how you two have made it without ever meeting one another this long. 3years? I'd say that's devotion. I understand your wanting to move on. Have you just sat and waited or have you continued living your life while he obviously lives his? That's the one thing you need to make sure that you do! Go out ..meet people on your own..take new classes..start new hobbies.. and if after these 4 months he doesn't want to finally meet. I'd say you gave it your ALL! Good Luck!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (17 January 2007):
Trust me, from someone who has studied abroad it is SO SO hard to think of anyone but yourself when you're away. Everything is different when you live in a different country and it's so hard to find friends etc. You end up latching onto anyone who offers you friendship, however fickle it might be and it does mean that to a certain extent you neglect your friends from home. I don't know why he's stopped getting in touch all the time but he tells you he still loves you and after all the time you've waited would it really matter to wait an extra four months before you see him again? If he extends his stay again perhaps he's playing games but it seems to me like he's just trying to get as much out of this experience as possible. You've come this far and it's only a few more weeks and you'll be together again. Hope this helps.
CD
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