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writes:I don't know what to do anymore...HELP! I have been with my b/f for 3 years march 2007, and we have a gorgeous 8 month old son Seth. We broke up Nov. 2005 b/c he didn't pay any attention to me and got back together in Feb. 2006 I found out I was pregnant with our son in April 2006 and he didn't think he was his b/c I had hooked up with another guy 2 months after we split, but I got pregnant in Nov. 2006...anyways...We both worked at the same place and he ended up cheating on me with a girl I knew b/c he didn't believe the baby was his, yet i was still living with him, weird huh? But then I found out that they had hung out in Oct. 2006 and supposedly around Christmas and she is saying that she is pregnant by him or 2 other guys. I don't know what to believe or think, I know he has talked to her b/c she USED to be friends with his uncle, but he lied even when I told him I wouldn't be mad at him b/c she is trying to get ahold of him. Now here lately the past 5-7 months he is never home b/c he would rather run his friends around then spend time with his son and me. I have tried telling him how I feel but all he does is get mad and yell at me b/c of it. I tell him it hurts b/c he don't spend time with me anymore and he is NEVER home which is true, but he thinks it's ok. On top of that he told one of his friends that he hates me and that he is only with me b/c of the baby and that killed me b/c I love this guy more than anything in this world besides our son and it would kill me to leave. But sometimes I think it would make it better for Seth, b/c his father is never around anyways. Someone please help me figure out what to do b/c it has been killing me the past few months and I don't know anymore. I don't know if I even know what love it anymore, he is my heart and soul, I just wish I knew what to do. So Will someone please help me?
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reader, beautifulllove +, writes (29 April 2007):
 you need to calm down and do you have a family member or friend close to you? if not you need to get a motel room and try to get a hold of some one who can help you like your mom or sister or a friend and you need to leave take your son out of that situation and your self too.
your worth more than him pushing you around and pushing you away and it would be better for you to leave now than when your son is older and you never know he might change i doubt it but thats not me to say for sure but i do say this if he doesnt change and you stay its going to effect seth a whole lot more and your self. please dont let your self go thru this or put your baby thru this either. you seem like a good person and i bet your beautiful dont let this man take your beauty away you need to tell your self you can do better and i hate that you would have to choice between the ones you love but the situation comes down to either him or the baby and even thow you think the baby isnt getting hurt he is you just dont know it yet babys are real smart even at seth age he can tell mom is upset and i dont want that to effect him later in life but its your choice i do wish you lots of luck
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reader, againstalodds  +, writes (29 April 2007):
ma ex lad treated me like dirt he's the father to ma baby i picked up the courage to kick him out ive never regreted it since ive met someone new al i wish id kicked him out sooner only until then you realise once A cheater always a cheater might not want to hear this but you can do better you desearve better and dont be scarred bout bein on ya own again youl have your friends and family try a new hobby keep your mind off him and delete his number so u crnt ring wen feelin vunrable let him see what he's missed out on you have the last laugh xx
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