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writes:my boyfriend is in the airforce and while he was at basic military training my ex got a tattoo. my ex and my boyfriend are enemies. i asked my ex th come over so i could see his tattoo one day and a few weeks later he came over with my brother but didnt leave with my brother. he stayed at my house for like an hour for no reason. he had also messaged my on myyearbook and ,y boyfriend found out about alll of hinks i cthis. my ex's brother told my boyfriend that i cheated on him with my ex and that i pregnant with my ex's baby. i never cheated on my boyfriend and im not pregnant. my boyfriend knows im not pregnant but he still thinks i cheated. all this happened in febuary but he found our about it a few days ago. can anybody tell me how to fix this please! its ripping my boyfriend and i apart and killing me. i know i messed up pretty bad. i want to fix it but i cant find a way. someone please help me!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (13 June 2010):
 Okay, why are you even communicating with your ex? Why are you inviting him over to look at his tattoo? Why are you letting him stay at your house for no reason for an hour alone??
Let's reverse the situation. If your boyfriend had an ex who was allowed to stay in his life and go to his house alone with him, you'd be freaking out! You might not be doing anything with this ex, but it looks unbelievably bad, and your boyfriend is 100% justified in his reaction.
If you want to salvage this situation, cut ALL ties to your ex, his brother, everyone associated with him. Don't go where he is, don't call him, delete him off of Facebook, myspace, everywhere. Apologize to your boyfriend for getting into a situation that causes him to worry.
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reader, tss18 +, writes (13 June 2010):
 if you didnt do anything with your ex then just try to keep reassusring your boyfriend and tell him you wont let him come over anymore if it makes him uncomfortable. hopefully sooner or later he will forgive you. just keep trying to talk it out and be patient and let him know hes the one you love not your ex.
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