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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months and hes told all his girl mates hes single and that me and him are just friends, a fair few of hes mates know about me n him. I havent even met hes parents. Does he even want to be with me. Im a pretty girl and i dont know why hes hiding me from the world. He's scared im going to leave him for someone better looking. But i would never do that. It seems his reputation is more important than me. I love him to bits. I dont want to be hid from the people he cares for. I dont think i can live with this much longer. If would break my heart if i had to leave him beacause of this Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): hiya i have had this happen to me too and my confidence went way down! i thought i wasnt worth it and that he actually had a reason to be ashamed of me!
you dont wont to feel like that so talk to him about it.
and by the way do you go to the same school? cos if you do dont you hold hand or anything down the corridor then?
and do you not meet up at weekends and hold hands in town for example so everyone can see your bf and gf?
Write back :) :)
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reader, depaiva  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 Communication-you need to tell him how much this is hurting you and that you need to feel that he is proud to have you by his side. He sounds embarrassed of you. He needs to make you feel important and significant to him....If he doesn't meet you half way, you need to put your foot down-be proud of who you are even if he's not. No one deserves to feel insignificant. Never doubt yourself and don't let anyone doubt you either.After all you are a beautiful young women with a huge heart who needs to be shown off-so he either shows you off or you show him where the door is.Hope all works out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): AAARRGGHH!!!!!Just in the first setence im annoyed. This has happened to me, and we broke up because after falling in love with him i found out he was cheating on me, he was on parole, had a child, was a drug dealer and MUCH MORE. Wow, now that thats off my chest im 1000% sure that this man is nothing like that, but he cant be telling his friend girls that he's single. He's probably just keeping his options open for if you and him dont work, i've done it too but not after 6 months! he can't treat you like that, he doesn't seem to be in the right frame of mind for a more serious relationship. Being in a serious relationship is about taking risks, cutting off all the other strings with other girls so he really feels it him and you. Now it seems like its him and you sometimes, to the right people. and this is not fair! TELL HIM! i know how you feel honey but this is just a basic thing that he should be doing. You have to tell him... "I wouldn't do this to you, because i love you and im proud of you. By you doing this to me youre making me feel like you dont really want to be with me, i love you to bits and i wouldnt want to break up with you over this but i cant live with this much longer" ARGHHH MEN! hope this helps, and you deserve someone thats proud of you and wants to show you off to the world!!!! good luck xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 Girl, if your guy was as crazy about you as he should be, he would have told the whole world by now that you're a couple. He should be shouting it out from the rooftop of the tallest building in the neighborhood. But no, he's telling all his FEMALE friends that he's single... and single is just another word for "available".
It sounds to me like he wants to be available should something bigger and better than you come around. I think you should have a talk with your guy, let him know that you're hurt that he can't acknowledge your relationship in public, and give him a chance to change his ways.
But if things don't change, I don't think this guy is worth to stick with.
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