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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Imma girl and for some reason I just CAN'T masturbate. My boyfriend has to finger me to get anything happening and even then it's painful, imma virgin and plan to stay that way but we like to mess around etc. I don't wanna have to ask him to finger me ALL the time because otherwise it would be unfair for him. (we take turns pleasuring eachother and if he does me then I do him too) So yeah, how do I do it myself? Everytime I try it just hurts so damn much and I can't relax.Should I buy a vibrator or summat? Lubrication?We only just starting fingering action and it's been sore down there lately too, like a cut that won't heal. Should I see a doctor about it or is this normal?
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reader, JulietteElise  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 ...females get pleasure from their cliterous (and g-spot, but don't even try for this yet, not untill you are used to your clit), which is the little circle like bump in front of where you urinate. Useing some slavia or lube, use one or two fingers to slowly massage this area, going in a circle or back and forth, and changeing speeds and pressure. Tell your b/f to do the same, either with his fingers or tounge. This, at least when your bf does it, will make your vigina should get very wet from this. When you are very wet (naturaly) and extremly horney it is safe for him to put a finger inside of you (however, his nails might be hurting you, etc, and the hymen might be the trouble too). If you both have been trying to insert fingers or things in you before you are wet (and also a bit looser from being aroused!!) then you are both doing possable harm!!! Please keep in mind that it is the cliterous that females get pleasure and orgasms from, so your masterbation and his pleasureing of you should be concentrated on this area... As for being sore... i'm thinking its probably from you guys trying to do things before you were ready (all wet and streached open a bit from arousal), so try not to do things inside of you for a while, maybe a week or so, and if it still hurts then see a genoclogist... i really hope though you haven't been injured. oh... an if you do get a vibrator... use it on your clit (most women don't insert things while masterbateing), but if you do decide to put one in you, use lube and go sllloowww..... it will probably feel uncomfertable... but exploreing ones sexuality is a healthy part of being human.... just do it more carefull from now on...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): When i was a virgin this used to hurt too, but not that much, i couldn't even really call it pain. Theres nothing wrong with you. Im pretty sure about that, but you have to be relaxed, and lubricated which, if you're relaxed and have had more kissing, touching should be ok. Are you nervous about him fingering you? See a doctor if it will put your mind at rest, but remember that all gils are different shapes and sizes, so just keep relaxed and take tour time with it, make even fingering sensual etc, exciting! not a chore. And he shouldn't just head straight for the hole. He should play around more, and go veeeerrrrryyyyy slooooowwwwllllyyyyyy! good luck babes. xxx dont worry!
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