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writes: My boyfriend has an old family friend that he totally gets lost in when he is with her. He ignores my calls when he is at her house. When we see her, he acts like he has never seen me before will not hold my hand or be lovey dovey, as he usually is. He sees her at least 3 times a week and it is driving me crazy. What can I do???? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2005): confront him !!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2005): You let him know how u feel about that situation talk about it and if it continues give him a warning that if he keeps it up that you would leave him.If it still continues then do what you have to do and leave him cuz all he is showing you is disrespect and that he dont care nothing bout your feelings and what you have to say.You dont need nobody like that there is more men out here for you.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (14 June 2005):
 Tell him how you feel... let him know that you are uncomfortable about this and cant understand why you get ignored when you are all together. Maybe she was an old flame and he still hasnt got her out of his system. You do need to chat to him and found out what it is, it could just be that they are good friends, but if he acts as differnt as you say he does it could also mean there is something else going on. Let him know that you love him and trust him, but are just finding it a little difficult to understand why he is so cold towards when she is around. If he cant see that anything is wrong then maybe he isnt the one for you. Give him the benefit of the doubt and see what happens after you have chatted, if things dont change then you may have to found someone that will be less like this towards you and someone that is open as you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2005): The thing is with this how would you feel if you were in the same situation. If you had an old family friend that you see often. If he really loves you then he won't do anything. I think that you should think to yourself what if it was a man, that was an old family friend of your boyfriends would you feel as jealous then. I know that isn't the same thing but a boy and a girl can just share a friendship. If you really can't get this off your mind try and talk to yourboyfriend about it. Or when they go out try to tag along get to talk to the girl, make friends with her. Ask her out for a drink sometime. Perhaps if your both friends with her it would make you trust her and your boyfriend together.
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reader, irishcurlysue +, writes (13 June 2005):
That is quite strange and you have every right to feel the way you do. What you need to do is talk to him about this. It is probable that he doesn't even realise that he is acting this way and upseting you. You need to let him know how your feeling and tell him it hurts you that he ignores you when he meets this girl. Tell him that you realise his friendship with her is important but so is your relationship. Ask him why is doesn't like to be affectionate towards you when he meets her. It may be that he's a bit embarrassed about being affectionate in public or that maybe because this girl is an old family friend he feels embarrassed as one would do when they're affectionate with a girlfriend in front of an actual family member.Don't make your boyfriend chose between you and his friend but do make it clear what will happen if he continues to act in such a way. Explain your feelings clearly and then allow him to respond. I'm sure you have nothing to worry about.
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