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*jroller14
writes:I don't know if I'm making the right choice or not!!!!Okay so my BF of two months gave me a promise ring at my Homecoming dance. I accepted it thinking it was so sweet and he was my Mr. Right. Well now I don't known if I'm making the right choice or not. Mostly because I NEVER see him nor get a chance to talk to him.One of my friends who likes me (and I like him a little too) is trying to talk me out of the ring and to go out with him. He's telling me he is Mr. Right, but I don't known if that is true or not.And on top of everything I've been thinking about one of my ex's a lot lately.what to do! Any advice?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 October 2011):
 "is that the right choice"
we don't know. only YOU know if it's the right choice
but for YOU... I think that playing the field a while is the right choice... just DATE (not SEX) these boys...
when the "right one" comes along you won't have to ask.. you will know.
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reader, Sjroller14 +, writes (21 October 2011):
Sjroller14 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Okay so I gave the ring back a few weeks ago...But now I am dating the other guy....Is that the right choice?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 October 2011):
 Why would it be a "trick" ? It's supposely love not a magic show.
I know you "think" it's LOVE. But really, if it was love, I doubt you would have so many conflicting feelings and doubt.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (7 October 2011):
 Hold up, wait a minute.....not even a month ago you couldn't decide who you wanted to date.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/who-do-i-pick-ducky-arby-or-dorky.html
If you can't even decide on your boyfriend, ex, friend, neighbor, whomever...then it's in your BEST INTEREST to DECLINE this promise ring. It's a nice gesture, but let's face it you're not ready for that kind of commitment (not that a cheap ring given to you by a high school boy is high on the commitment scale).
Promise rings are basically a faux engagement that rarely lasts into a real engagement and onto marriage. I know I've had about 2 given to me and I finally met my husband at 25.
To sum it up, don't take the ring and break up with your boyfriend if you potentially like your friend, and are still into your ex. You're young, you'll fall in love many of times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2011): 1. No one can tell you they are mr. Right.
2. You won't meet him at 15
3. Do you honestly want to be practically engaged at 15?
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reader, Thelaird1  +, writes (6 October 2011):
 I remember being deeply in love when I was 15 and thinking I would spend the rest of my life with her.,... Then I started to get older and realised I didn't even know what love was back then.
Someday you will look back on this and laugh about it.
You are far too young to even think about Mr Right. He will come along when you are more mature, understand your own emotions and needs and are ready for love to find you.
Just enjoy being young and learn to love life without love. Gain life experience, study hard, play safe, stay respectful and just learn to discover just who YOU are without distractions. Concentrate on being the best you can be,
I think you should tell the guy you are not ready for a full on relationship and return the ring. Tell him you are happy to remain friends, but that's all.
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reader, Sjroller14 +, writes (6 October 2011):
Sjroller14 is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Honeypiei know it's rare, but i do really LOVE him...it's just so many people are telling me not to fall for it, it's all just a trick, and i don't know what to do
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 October 2011):
What does this promise ring signify?
you should be aware that it's RARE to meet Mr. Right at 15 or 16 or even 17 18 or 19.
Yes it happens but not as often as 15 year old young ladies would like...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 October 2011):
 Happy Birthday. "I'm only 15 and I don't need any commitments at this time".
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 October 2011):
You still have plenty of time to find Mr. Right.
If you aren't sure about a relationship, then usually it means it's not right for you. But honestly at 15.. it's hard to know if a guy is Mr. Right or Mr. Right now.. heck at 30 it's hard to know.
Is the promise ring a "promise" to marry you ar some point in life? Because if it is.. you need to hold your horses. There is NO rush to get married. I see it every day, young couple getting divorced becuaswe they simply outgrew eachother after a year or two together. Personally I think waiting til early/mid 20's is much much smarter.
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reader, Sjroller14 +, writes (6 October 2011):
Sjroller14 is verified as being by the original poster of the question@eyeswideopen
I am 15 not 14
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 October 2011):
I couldn't have said it better then Eyeswideopen so I will repost her post !
A female reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 October 2011):
You have many postings on DC concerning all your many boyfriend dramas. I suggest you just repeat over and over again "I'm only 14 and I don't need any commitments at this time".
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 October 2011):
You did not make the right choice.
clearly if you are not sure it's not the right choice.
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reader, Sjroller14 +, writes (6 October 2011):
Sjroller14 is verified as being by the original poster of the question@eyeswideopen I AM 15 NOT 14.....
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 October 2011):
You have many postings on DC concerning all your many boyfriend dramas. I suggest you just repeat over and over again "I'm only 14 and I don't need any commitments at this time".
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2011): Hun you're way too young now to think of a promise ring, or any other sort of rings. At this stage you should enjoy your life within reason, follow your heart and be careful. The right thing is to return the ring back to it's giver, telling him that you think you're too young for rings now, and apologize for not being able to keep it, and thank him for the nice gesture.Follow your heart without hurting anyone as much as possible, but you're under NO OBLIGATION to stay in a relationship your heart does not desire because of a ring.
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