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writes: We have been together for two and a half years. He is my first boyfriend and I'm his first girlfriend. We go to different colleges two and a half hours away and it has been very hard lately. We have no other experience in dating, other than our own relationship. He feels like he won't ever need to date anyone else and I'm the one for him forever. I think that you need to be with more than one person before you decide to get married. He says he never wants to go on a break or breakup, and if we do it's over for good. I know that I want to be with this person and maybe marry him someday but I dont want to miss out on meeting people and at least kissing other people because I'm curious and don't think it's realistic to only be with one person your whole life without ever even kissing another person? Do you agree with me or do you think it could work just being with one person? Please help. I am desperate and don't know what to do anymore!
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reader, Katie +, writes (9 June 2005):
Maybe the reason that your feeling this way is because deep down you are worried that you are not really right for each other and that you would like to move on but feel that if you ended it you would never find anyone like him again.After being together for a long time you are bound to get comfortable in a relationship and be scared to meet new people. Well i think that you are lucky to have found someone on the first try as trust me i have had loads of boyfriends after thinking along the same lines as you, but honestly i think that if you havent left him by now its probably a good thing and worth sticking around for.
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reader, Your big sis +, writes (9 June 2005):
 I think you're like alot of guys out there who want their cake and eat it too. If you want to date other guys, break it off with your boyfriend first. It's not fair to him that you do not feel the same as he does. How can you marry this guy down the road if you're feeling this way? My advice is let your boyfriend go, BUT REALIZE that you may lose him forever. It's a choice only you can make. You have to choose which is more important to you...More experience or true love right in front of you.
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reader, D_Missy +, writes (9 June 2005):
I was in the exact same situation not too long ago and its HARD. I was dating my boyfriend for 2 and a half years, too...but instead of being in two different colleges..we were in two different cities..then states because I moved. It isn't fair to just be with one person. You should live from experience but you can't do that if you don't have any. I know you might really like this guy and think he's the final answer but chances are, he might not be. Take a risk and get out there. Since I broke up with my ex, my life has been great. Well..now I'm having issues with my new boyfriend but I'll take it as it comes. Like I said, it's experience. Don't nail yourself to one guy. Tell him you want to break and if he can't handle that, break up. Everyone is entitled to a little exploring. My ex said that he wouldn't want to get with anyone new either but last I heard, he's been dating some new girl for as long as I've been dating my new boyfriend. Which..is almost 5 months! It'll all be okay in the end! :)
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