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writes:my boyfriend left me for another women he moved straight in with her, after our 11 happy years togther. he never stopped texting me he used to end me a text once a week and since the 20th may i had about 25 texts some saying how was your weekend, one saying how are you, one saying where the sunshine today not the smae when its not out. one saying hope i have been watering the garden. one saying i gave him cold even though there was no physcial communcations or even seening. fridy was put the radio on as my favourite record was on and some other texts is well all with xx next them and smiles.i dont text him until he texts me as i think this is helping him think what i am doing, do you think he will come back to me or is he just trying to be friends he still has some clothes here, which i dont mind as i think this might give me hope i have packed them up and put them out of sight for know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): I had a very similar situation where my ex would text me regularly on the same kind of stuff while he was in another relationship. It doesn't mean anything other than he is just checking in with your life. There is nothing flirty or emotional in those texts, just platonic inquiries about your life. I don't think you can fantasize that he's harboring all these feelings for you and that he really wants to be with you just because he's sending you some basic texts. I think you just really want him back and it's not good for you to put more emotion into what is really going on. My ex since broke up with that girl and now he is with someone else and I still get texts every now and again. I know he cares about my welfare but I don't think it means anything more than that. If it's too hard for you and the texts are bringing on hope and emotion, just stop texting back for your own sanity. He's moved on and so should you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 June 2009):
 I agree fully with Steve S. He's keeping you hanging on "just in case". Block his number, ignore if he still tried to call or e-mail.
You guys spend 11 years together so of course he didn't just stop having feelings for you, but he didn't want you totally out of his life either. It is a nice thought, but in all honesty it might prevent you from moving on, don't forget he did move on.
Good luck & let him go.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (15 June 2009):
 He is probably keeping you 'on line' in case he needs to come back sort of like a back up plan. I suggest you block his number then you won't have to agonise over his messages or the temptation to respond. Throw his clothes in the bin he's not worth it there is someone else out there who loves you, go out and find him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): You need to stop fooling yourself. He has gone to live with another woman and he is doing all the things a couple living together do. He either wants to keep you sweet in case it doens't work out (in which caseyou will be second best and you should never be someones seconf best) or he is texting out of guilt at what he so cruely done to you.Either way bloke his number (the phone provider can do this) so you can start getting on with your own life.If he does wnat to come back you need to make him work hard for it and explain why he left like he did. You need to make sure whatever made him leave is sorted out or you will end up in the same placea few months down the road. And pack his clothes up and have them delivered to his new addressPersonally I would not have him back if he could leave you like he did with no respect fro your feelings after 11 years
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