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writes:my bf and I have been together just over 2 years, im 20 he is 25, the other day I come home from work and I went straight to the shower to cool off as the air con at my work died so I was hot and wanted to cool down, the problem is my bf ignored me the hole night, he did not eat dinner with me, and locked himself in his study, I went in to talk to him and asked if everything was ok and I only got one word answers, and spoke in a angry tone, and did not make any conversation all night, and one time when I asked what he was doing he said computer work but when I walked in 1 hour later he was sitting around listen to music and drinking. I dont know what I did wrong, that day when I had seen him earlier everything was fine. what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): Well, this is kind of odd behavior, you have been with him for two years has he never acted this way?
Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, when we women are stressed we usually want to unload all of our feelings on someone else and talk about what is bothering us, where men usually want to retreat to their cave and be left alone to sort our everything, the more you pressure and pry by asking questions when they are in their cave, the more resistance and distance and even anger you will get.
It is just best to give him lots of space and soon enough he will be ready to talk to you again, and then you can ask what is wrong and if there is anything at all you can do to help or make him feel better....don't worry too much about it, if this is the first time this has happened then I say count yourself lucky, you have less of a caveman than alot of us have....
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): that is weird. why do you think that you did something wrong? try shifting your attitude - you came home and wanted to be pleasant, something was clearly wrong with him, and he didn't want to tell you about it. then on top of that, he was rude to you all night. I'd give him a few days to cool off, and then i'd talk to him about it. he should be able to talk to you about what was going on with him.
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reader, CarrieMagdelene  +, writes (5 January 2007):
 There is a good chance that he was either put off and felt hurt that you did not come talk to him or ask him about his day before going to freshen up, or he just had a bad day. And don't we all have those! Calmly confront him when you feel he is in a better mood. :) Enjoy life! -Carrie
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reader, rammsteinfan +, writes (5 January 2007):
 Sounds like to me that he might be going through some kind of stress or depression. Has he always from time to time done this, or has this just started out of the blue?
Talk to him when he is in his better mood on what is bothering him. A trip to the doctor might be the answer that you are looking for.
Good Luck to you
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