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writes: Hey! Bad news, my bf and I have split up. He text me saying he loves me to bits but doesnt wanna be with me anymore. How can i get over him and become a single girl who's over it? I'm dreading seeing him happy with someone else. I did every thing for him, gave him hundreds of pounds, lent him my car, topped up his phone, gave him money to go out and get petrol. Hell i was even gonna buy him Fifa 07 next week! I even saved his life when he tried to kill himself in depression. We were engaged with no ring. Any advice please?
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (19 September 2006):
Are you sure it is not because of his male pride? He might feel bad that you have spent so much money on him and he cannot do the same in return.
My boyfriend was doing the same for me as I was out of a job and I had no money, he paid for everything. I was really grateful but I was embarrassed, I nearly walked out a few times. I wanted to finish it because I felt bad that I couldnt afford to do things for him. I really loved him but I thought he would be far better without me.
I decided in the end to stick around and just promised myself that I would make it up to him when I could, not that he would expect it of course.
I think that you should try and talk to him because if he says he still loves you there is still a chance that you can save your relationship. I suggest though that you don't throw anything about all the money in his face because it will only make him feel worse and push him away even more.
Tell him how much he means to you and how much you love him. Try and boost his ego and tell him that you dont think you can cope without him. Say things like he makes you feel safe and worthwhile. I am not saying this will definately work but it might. Once he feels that he is worthwhile and needed he might come back to you.
If he definately does want it to be the end then I am really sorry and all I can say is that you learn by your mistakes and you will know in future not to spend so much money on a man. I hope things do work out for you though good luck
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