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writes:(Just note, I have asked many questions about this situation on here).Okay, so, my best friend's girlfriend hates me. She doesn't try to deny it (hence, the threatening email. And today, she "bumped" into me and triped me down the stairs at school. And no one will believe me, and the principal said my friend and I had "cried wolf way too many times." Not true. I only complained once (about the email), and still she told him that I made up a fake email address.People tell me to kick her *ss, but I can't. I just can't. I'm guessing that it's because I don't want to get suspended and lose my scholarship. Also because I don't want to hurt my best friend. We've known each other forever, and I'd kill myself if he were mad at me.Is it wrong that I can't (and will not) fight her back? It's been weighing on my mind.
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reader, Uncle Chaos  +, writes (26 September 2009):
 Hey-First off, it’s not wrong that you won't physically fight back, especially as you're education is involved- but standing up for yourself in a situation like this is a must.However, the probable reason for her disliking you is clear-she sees you as a threat. She thinks that you are going to steal your friend away from her. She may admit it - she may not - but as a general rule, jealousy is common in situations like this. People get paranoid of close friends when they are in relationships, especially of close friends of the opposite sex. (I'm making the assumption that the friend here is male.)Have you tried talking to him about it? Have you tried talking to her about it? Sometimes direct confrontation is the best course of action. If you have no romantic feelings toward your friend then talking could fix all of the problems. However this isn’t a guarantee On the other hand if it’s going to cause issues with your education it might be best to leave it alone and just steer clear of her.I hope that this helps.Good LuckUC
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reader, sundays9best +, writes (26 September 2009):
 if i were you, i wouldnt physically fight back. she is only treating you this way because she is jealous of you and her boyfriends close friendship. thats rough that she pushed you down the flight of stairs, but you have to ignore it and eventually she will stop. have you tried to talk to your bestfriend, i mean find out whats most important in his life. the girl he is with doesnt sound like a great girl if she has such vengeance towards you....but i would say fighting back is not worth your time. she isnt worth your time, your scholarship, or anything to deal with you. hopefully your bestfriend treats you right and takes care of it.
hope this helps -- good luck and stay smart.
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