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writes:I am 39 and my gf is 38 and I don't know if I am a freak or got some serious problems but I get turned on when my girlfriend tells me about her past sexual encounters. It is something that I have been dealing with for awhile and I just dont know what to do. She does not like doing it but she does it because she knows I like it. So please leave constructive advice. Why do I get so turned on about hearing about someone else having sex with my girlfriend. I would never want her to do that but to hear her talk about it during sex is something that really gets me excited. Thanks for your inputs.
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reader, csar +, writes (26 September 2009):
csar is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your inputs
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): Men get turned on things that are not the norm. It is an experiance that someone else desired and now you have it. this feeling is normal because I have felt this way and it is only a thought and not put into action. If your girlfriend likes telling you the stories then hey these things keep the sex exciting and not boring.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): We all get turned on by something, yours (right now) is hearing about her exploits before you... Nothing at all wrong with that, so long as you don't pressure her to tell you things she's uncomfortable with... and that she's giving freely.
Some guys get turned on watching their wifes with other men... so compared to that your kink is tame- there's nothing wrong with it, but you need to modulate your need for her to share... telling stories too often is going to get to be a drain on her if you're not careful.
If your both having fun go for it!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (26 September 2009):
 The answer will be found in the book: Sperm Wars.
Basically, you are channeling what most experience as sexually jealousy, and using that energy to fuel your own orgasm.
Based on the premise that when a man senses his female lover might have had sex with another male, it conditions the man's body to issue an even more intense orgasm to combat the sperm of the other man that he senses is inside her.
-Frank Kermit
http://www.franktalks.com
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reader, samurai girl +, writes (26 September 2009):
 This is clearly a very new relationship. Perhaps you have voyeur fantasies and the idea of her being with other men feeds into that. However if she doesn't like doing this, I suggest you stop because this is going to push her away from you.
Imagine if she asked you to perform a sexual act that you didn't like and made you uncomfortable. Basically, that is what you are doing to her.
Keep the fantasies in your head and don't have her verbalize this anymore. It's dangerous and you can end up alone, or resenting her as the relationship ages.
Good luck!
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