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*arissa22
writes:I've been doing work experience for a month and today was my last day. The 18 year old guy (he just turned 18 a week ago) is my boss/ supervisor (he's not head boss, just of our section). I do really like him in both ways, and I knew him a little before work experience, but now this path month we've gotten to know each other really well since we spent most of our time together and we're just so compatible. Over the last 2 weeks we've been getting closer physically, like hugging each other. Today was my last day working there and we had a party at the end of the day, when he just pulled me into an empty room and kissed me. I kissed him back and it just felt so right.My best friend told me I should avoid him because of the age difference, but my other friend said I should go after him if I want him.I have no idea what to do, please help?
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (23 June 2011):
 Well the age difference then is not too huge if he has just turned 18, it will only be 2 and a bit years. In most circumstances, 2-3 year age gaps are very normal and nothing to be overly concerned with.
The only problem in your case is the fact you are under 16, which would make a sexual relationship with him illegal until you turn 16. You can date him, but if the relationship turned sexual he could get into a lot of trouble, so I guess it is up to you if you think it is worth the risk?
If you really like him then I dont see any harm in going for it providing you are careful about the sexual side of things, the age gap is not too big and it seems you have a good connection with him. Just tell him how you feel, or ask to meet up with him outside from work - and see how it goes from there. Just be careful about anything sexual, and make sure you are honest with your parents too otherwise they might get upset.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Larissa22 +, writes (22 June 2011):
Larissa22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm 15
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 June 2011):
 Yeah are you 13 or 15...?
if you are 13 then NO
if you are 15, then maybe...
note that you can be friends with this guy but that if he gets sexual with you and you are below the age of consent, he will go to jail and be branded a sex offender for life...
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (22 June 2011):
Well how old are you? Your age says 13-15 but that is a pretty big range when we are discussing an 18 year old! If it is an 18 year old kissing a 13 year old girl? That is very scary. If it is an 18 year old kissing a 15 year old who is nearly 16, then that would be a different matter.
Tell us how old you are and then we will be able to help.
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reader, N91 +, writes (22 June 2011):
 I'd be a little wary of this guy, I don't know many 18 year olds that would try and date someone in the 13-15 age range - I may be talking rubbish and he may be the real deal, I can't say for sure.
What is the reason he hasn't got a girlfriend his old age? Why does he need to look for very young girls to date instead?
I know you're probably going to disregard this advice as it's probably not what you want to hear, but just be careful and if you do make a move on him, don't do anything intimate until you're of the legal age!
Good luck...
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (22 June 2011):
 I think it really hinges on where you are at on the 13-15 scale.
If you're 15, then i would say.... reluctantly, go for it.
Anything under 15 and i think the age difference may be too much, at this stage.
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reader, honeyzzz  +, writes (22 June 2011):
Hi there, In my opinion ... go ahead girl ... age is just a number! I'm 23 and i'm dating a 50 year old guy, he's fit and healthy. That matters :P The only thing i noticed is when your friend said to "Go after him" well ...
I think you guys can just start slow, i mean there's no need to rush things ... get to know him better.
Dont give in easily, play a little hard to get, if he makes a point of staying with you, you'll know for sure that he likes you.
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