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writes:Hey guys, I am going to be as brief as possible, because I don’t want to take up your time.Basically, my friend turned 21 last week, he had a party with his flatmates, people from his course and a girl he has had a crush on, but he didn’t invite me, his best friend of 7 years. I have tried to think of every reason why he didn’t want me there, we are not in an argument or anything, it just comes down to that he didn’t want me there or he wanted to get with this girl and probably didn’t want me around. Which did make me cry a little, (I know pathetic. )What upsets me most is that I have always been there for him, and it’s not like another birthday, it’s his 21st. The girl he always like booked a ticket 3 weeks ago when I asked him if I should book a ticket to see him, but he simply said, ‘oh I don’t think it happening’. I was like oh ‘but I can book time of work to see you, i really want to come down and see you’. He was very adamant that it wasn’t happening, but when he saw i was upset he was like oh fine I’m inviting you now. I waited a week for him to call and invite me properly but he never did, so i assumed that it was not happening, but silly me it was happening. I think deep down i knew it was, but i had hoped he had wanted me there. Now, i know it sounds petty but i just don’t want to talk to him, i really have had enough. I would never treat him like that Never! I wanted to bring it up when i called him to wish him happy birthday but i knew i would get either;1. Well i can have friends outside of you2. Well i said you could come, you should have made the effort 3. I didn’t know it was happening. 4. We can do something for my birthday when i get home Even if it wasn’t happening i still wanted to make a fuss of him and celebrate with him. But just don’t think i care anymore. Am i wrong for wanting to be there? Should i talk to him about it?Thanks for reading and possible advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2011): Hey eveyone, thanks so much for your advice.
I think you all have good points.
yest i think he wanted to get with her and did want me around to complicate things, still what he did was s~~~~y.
Im just not gonna talk to him, he should realise what he did was bad and he's gonna have to realise this and before i leave his life all together
thanks evry1 xx
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reader, turtle escape  +, writes (9 May 2011):
I dont think your wrong for wanting to be there. I think it probably had something to do with the other girl. I mean think about it would you want your boyfriend hanging out with another girl alone, I know I wouldnt. He may have considered that and didnt want the girl to get any ideas about you two's relationship that werent true.
I say talk to him about it. I have learned the hard way that holding in your feelings is NEVER a good thing.
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (9 May 2011):
 Hello,
I feel he wanted to make a move on this crush girl so didn't want you around. Possibly didn't want to hurt your feelings or he didn't want your presence to confuse things. Obviously, it was his party so he gets to say who comes. However, it is sh**ty not to invite you and I personally think it is bad on his behalf. I would have been disappointed. For you, let things go now and wait for him to get in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2011): Just avoid him..
what kind of best fren is him?
he invites all except u...
clearly,he is trying to say dat he doesnt want ur company anymore...
He doesnot like ur company..
so u better don be friend with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2011): There's too little info there for people to really give you any idea what his problem is. It is a little unthoughtful and mean for him to not invite you and it seems to hope you wouldn't come.
I'd ignore him, see how he likes it. If he asks you what your problem is say everything's fine and you're busy or perhaps something like:
"Well i can have friends outside of you"
Then maybe he'll be a little more thoughtful in the future. Or if he doesn't even make the effort to really get in touch then find a better best friend.
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